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Psychology, development.  ---  .See also: Psychology, personality, self identity.  See also: Change of environments, experiences, attitudes, and philosophies.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  .This section is about development.  Topics include: ( ) Age.  ( ) Development.  ( ) Maturity.  ( ) Phases.  ( ) Young and old.  ---  1/24/2006

Psychology, development.  ---  "Respect your elders" is just a power play used by older people to maintain power.  Respect everyone the same.  Everyone deserves equal respect.  No one deserves abuse.  ---  04/24/1989

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) Development of logic.  (2) Development of metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, aesthetics.  (3) Development of knowledge.  (4) Development of emotions.  (5) Development of knowledge of problems: confront vs. run away vs. run for help.  (6) Development of behavior: take care of self, take care of another.  (7) Development of independence.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) Every age is unique.  Every age is important.  (2) You do not develop year by year, rather you develop moment by moment.  ---  11/25/2001

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) For any individual, where do they peak?  The typical life span usually has, in all areas, a period of growth, followed by a peak, and then a period of decay.  (2) Another question is, for any area of your life, how high is your peak?  Some people peak quite high.  Other people peak quite low.  (3) Some people peak early in life, some people peak late in life.  Some people have a sharp peak, other people have a longer plateau-like peak.  Some people have several peaks.  Who says there are no second acts in life?  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) Heart without wisdom vs. wisdom without heart.  Young conservative has no heart.  Old liberal has no wisdom.  (2) Ideal: strong in both.  Anti: weak in both.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) History of attitudes about age.  (2) Change in average human life span.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) Mind and body.  The body ages, and the mind being part of the body also ages.  (2) Individual and society.  The individual ages in the culture.    ---  1/24/2007

Psychology, development.  ---  (1) Old vs. young.  (2) Experienced vs. inexperienced.  (3) Understanding vs. no understanding.  (4) The above three are not the same.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Ability change: actual vs. potential.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Adult.  Legal aspects of adulthood.  Legal age to do the following:  (1) Have sex.  For example, in many countries you must be at least between 16 and 18 years old to have sex.  (2) Work.  For example, in many countries a person must be around 16 to work.  (3) Pay taxes.  For example, in many countries a person must be around 18 to start paying taxes.  (4) Get drafted.  For example, in many countries a person must be around 18 years old to get drafted.  (5) Get arrested.  For example, in many countries a person must be around 18 to be legally prosecuted as an adult.  (6) Vote.  For example, in many countries a person must be around 18 years old to vote.  (7) Drink.  In many countries a person must be around 18 to 21 years old in order to buy alcoholic beverages.  ---  12/4/2005

Psychology, development.  ---  Age 13, start growing.  17, done growing, start living.  30, height of living years.  ---  05/12/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Age 15 - 25: intellectual formative years.  Age 25 - 45: years of position and power to make a big effect.  Age 45 onward: burning out with age.  ---  06/15/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Age 16 - 35.  This is your opportunity to say something, to do something, important new and different.  ---  04/01/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Age and size of world you inhabit.  Age 5, house and yard (unsupervised play).  Age 7, your street.  Age 10, your neighborhood.  Age 12, your town (bikes).  Age 16, world (cars, planes, trains, you are an adult).  ---  05/10/1997

Psychology, development.  ---  Age as a (1) Physical (biochemical) phenomenon, (2) Psychological phenomenon, and (3) Sociological phenomenon.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Age don't mean shit.  Young smart vs. old stupid, crazy.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Age is no guarantee of maturity.  It is quite common to meet immature older people.  It is quite common to meet mature younger people.  That is, some older people are ignorant, ethically challenged, lack social skills, have no empathy and are not ecologically minded.  Some younger people are knowledgeable, ethical, socially adept, empathetic and ecologically minded.  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Age is not just a physical issue.  Your mental maturity is not directly correlated to your physical age.  The age notes should not be in the "physical" section.  ---  10/25/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  (1) Chronological age vs. (2) fitness age vs. (3) psychological age.  Closely corresponding development of above three vs. all three way out of whack.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  (1) Chronological age: actual age.  (2) Physical age: what shape body is in.  (3) Psychological age: what age are you mentally.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  Is your face (and body and voice) older, equal to, or younger than your real physical age, and also the age of your personality.  How do all three affect each other?  ---  07/03/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  Physical aging occurs over the course of a lifespan.  What causes physical aging?  Can lifespans be extended?  If so, by what means, and to what limit?  ---  5/20/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  Psychology of age.  (1) The age you feel.  Some old people feel young.  Some young people feel old.  Sometimes you do not feel like the age you are.  It can vary daily.  You can feel younger one day and older the next day.  (2) And, in addition, you can feel one age in your mind and another age in your body.  (3) As a result, you can say, for example, that when you were 40 your body felt like 30 and your mind felt like 20; but when you where 25 your mind felt like 35 and your body felt like 45.  Now, you tell me, what is age?  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Age.  Sociology of age.  (1) Society won't let you do certain things until you are a certain age.  For example, vote, drink and drive.  (By the way, don't drink and drive on your way to voting.  And don't let the voting drive you to drink).  (2) Society won't let you do certain things after a certain age.  For example, laws requiring forced retirement.  (3) Society won't let you do certain things when you are between two ages.  For example, at a restaurant, adults cannot order the kiddy meal for themselves, and adults cannot order the senior citizen meal for themselves.  (4) Thus, we see that society has issues about age.  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Aging: causes and effects, good and bad.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Analyze changes in all mental elements through life.  In retards, in precocious kids, in geniuses.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Attitudes at different ages.  There are attitudes that people have in their 20's.  There are attitudes that people have in their 30's.  There are attitudes that people have in there 40's.  There are attitudes that people have in each decade of life.  Not as a rule, but as a trend.  Attitudes about life, work, people, self, goals.  There are thoughts and feelings more likely to occur at certain ages.  There are experiences that people have in each decade of their life as well.    ---  1/24/2007

Psychology, development.  ---  Be able to look back in true wisdom, with few regrets.  Should have done, shouldn't have done.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Change in mental.  Number, speed, degree, permanence of changes.  Causes: internal and external.  Effects: for better and for worse.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Change: potential vs. actual.  Forced vs. chosen.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  College students go on Spring Break.  Why is Spring Break interesting?  It's interesting to see young people go wild and party with the following attitudes, "I am allowed to do this." and "I am supposed to do this".  That is, its interesting to observe officially permitted rule breaking.  Culturally approved rebellion.  Socially conforming bohemianism.  Its a case of irony, juxtaposition, paradox and oxymoron.     PART TWO.  (1)  Four factors: Mindless conformity is bad.  Mindful conformity is bad.  Mindless rebellion is bad.  Mindful rebellion is good.  (2)  Spring break was mindless conformists obeying an order to play the role of mindless rebels for a week. (3)  Who is more sadly wrong: those who walk the beaches of spring break and think "This is it.  This is all I have.  I have to make my memories today.  This is the only time I am allowed to rebel." or those who walk the beaches of spring break and think "You are all sheep being led to slaughter."?  ---  2/16/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Common and rare (1) Problems.  (2) Mistakes: omission, commission.  (3) Experiences.  (4) Behavior.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Delayed or arrested development vs. premature development or precocious-ness.  What causes both?  What are the signs of both?  ---  05/30/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Development at any age.  (1) Level: are you ahead or behind the norm.  (2) Rate: are you speeding up or slowing down.  ---  10/30/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Development is not an "all or none" phenomenon.  It is common for a person to be developed in one area but underdeveloped in another.  ---  11/13/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Development of ethics.  (1) Should/not, could/not, will/won't happen at each age vs. what actually does.  (2) Should have, would have, could have.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Development of human mind, behavior and physical body.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Development of individuals and society.  Thank god that as society and culture progresses it creates more intelligent people, essentially "new" people, with new experiences, in new situations, who are more apt to get new (different, better) ideas and views than their predecessors.  Kids today can think of cooler, better stuff than wise old men of years ago.  As society develops, individuals develop.  ---  12/30/1996

Psychology, development.  ---  Development of mind depends on a continuity, a history of experience, thinking, and feeling.  The poems, music, images, words you pick and create are important.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Development of strong self identity and development of strong social skills.  Neglect the first and you blow with the wind.  Neglect the second and you end up a hermit.  Both are important.  You should not be apart from the group, yet not be dependent on the group.  ---  12/30/1995

Psychology, development.  ---  Development: ahead of norm vs. norm vs. behind the norm.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Development: psychological, physical, and social.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Development.  Growth.  Speed is key.  Self development is key.  Spotting weak areas is key.  ---  12/29/1997

Psychology, development.  ---  Development.  The key to development (artistic development) was  (1) To get as much experience as soon as possible (especially experience of the current adult world).  Even drugs.  Even 2nd hand experience through reading.  Even imaginary experience through imagining.  (2) And to think long and hard.  (3) Try anything once.  Even if it meant giving up safety for risky, dangerous experiences.  ---  12/30/1995

Psychology, development.  ---  Developmental psychology.  Development of body (physical), mind (psychology), behaviors, your life.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Effect of a thing: in general, specific type of thing, or specific thing.  On an individual: in general, specific type of individual, or specific individual.  Momentary vs. over time.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Ethical development: what do you think is cool and uncool.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  For any age: issues, concerns, problems, questions.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Forces: psychological, social, economic, political, change us.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Growing up vs. growing old.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Growing up: coming to grips with the metaphysical nature of reality.  Acknowledge, learn, resolve.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Growth without effort vs. growth with effort.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Growth, stagnation, decay.  Evolution, stagnation, devolution.  See time, change.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Having kids makes you more conservative.  Then youths look like risky people, wasters of their own time, powers, abilities, and resources, self abusers and neglecters.  ---  12/30/1995

Psychology, development.  ---  Hooray for hormones, holy hormones.  If only the mix and quantity would last.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  How long you live vs. how rich you live.  Number of experiences, variety of experiences, positive and negative.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  How soon can you reach your peak.  How long can you delay your decay.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  How well you deal with problems.  How well you make decisions.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  I don't feel young, I feel tired (not energized), emotionally hurt, financially worried, not horny, beat not fresh, emotionally insensitive and callused, no imagination, mentally inactive, trapped cornered caged, been through a fight, no dreams left, hopes shot.  ---  05/30/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Identity through time: are you same person or different person?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  If life was infinite with infinite change vs. if life was infinite with no change.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  If you hold that the degree to which we shape ourselves is more important than the degree to which we are shaped by others, then the teen years become more important than the early childhood years, as far as shaping the individual, contrary to what Freud said.  Because during childhood we lack the experience, the thought skills and the emotional knowledge that it takes to shape the self.  Only during the teenage years do most people begin to develop the ability to make crucial life decisions for oneself and then act on them.  Some people will argue that by the teen years, "Its too late, the damage is done".  But that strikes me as being somewhat fatalistic, defeatist and pessimistic.  ---  9/28/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Impossible, possible, probable.  Common vs. rare.  Affects on individual in general, specific types, specific actual.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  In humans there is a natural tendency toward development.  However, sometimes there are problems that cause a stagnation or reversal of development.  What phenomena can cause stagnation or reversal of development?  (1) One thing that causes stagnation or reversal of development is if the person consciously or unconsciously decides not to develop any further.  You will sometimes meet people who say that they are done developing, and it is usually premature.  They have closed their minds off from the world.  Refusal to think, feel and talk.  (2) Another thing that can cause stagnation or reversal of development is if the person lacks the time and energy to focus on personal development.  If you are working a job for twelve hours a day you can stagnate or reverse in other areas of your life.  (3) Another thing that can cause stagnation or reversal of development is a lack of tools to record, store, manipulate and retrieve ideas.  Tools like reading, writing and computers.  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  It is not how old you are, it is what your abilities are.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Its not always useful to use chronological age as a measure of development because people of the same age can vary widely in development, and people at the same level of development can vary widely in age.  ---  11/13/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Life means dealing with increasing, unavoidable bullshit.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Many people say that it is our parents, siblings, peers, media, or schools that shape us as individuals.  I say let's not forget the degree to which we can shape ourselves, build ourselves, and create ourselves by figuring out and finding out about the world, through active searching and exploring, and by not passively accepting what others tell us.  ---  9/20/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Mature young people vs. immature old people.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Mature.  Different individuals and societies have different definitions of what it means to be immature or mature at any age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity = knowledge and ability.  Immaturity = ignorance.  Physical age vs. psychological age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity = working knowledge.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity means getting the right thought at the right time.  And feeling the right emotion at the right time.  The emotions come from the thoughts.  Maturity is primarily about thoughts (or attitudes).  Maturity is about not being a jerk and not being a dope.  Not being a dope is about learning and information management.  ---  10/22/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity takes years to gain, seconds to lose.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity, three definitions.  (1) Mature defined as acting your age.  (2) Mature defined as wisdom regardless of age.  (3) Mature defined as the the average old person.  ---  6/23/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity: losing your pessimism, and losing your optimism.  ---  06/30/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity.  Development of all elements (knowledge, emotion, memory), on all subjects, in best directions.  Compared to all others vs. compared to peers.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity.  Does maturity mean being an old bore?  Yes?  No?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity.  Immature: the wish to be the best (president).  Mature: do not give up even if you are not the best.  ---  10/15/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity.  Problems: lack of maturity, pseudo maturity.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Maturity.  The problem is: (1) Sometimes people use the word "mature" to mean "old".  (2) Sometimes people use the word "mature" to mean "not immature" or "having achieved a level of psychological development commensurate with their physical age".  (3) Sometimes people use the phrase "mature for their age" to mean "experienced beyond their years."  For example, a fourteen year old who lives like a twenty-four year old.  ---  10/25/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Me, stages.  (1) Loved hookey, hated school.  (2) Loved school, hated work.  (3) Loved work, hated decrepitude.  (4) Loved decrepitude, hated death.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Most go from amorphous blobs (kids) to character (old age).  Some have better character when young.  Some stay amorphous blobs their entire lives.  ---  03/01/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Much reflection with little experience vs. little reflection with much experience.  Both are bad.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  My changing situation.  Using up, and running out of choices.  Getting physically older to.  ---  05/30/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Old age without reflection = worthless.  Youth without experience = worthless.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Opportunities and limitations.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  People stop growing due to (1) Lack of organization and saving of ideas.  (2) Lack of freedom and change (too rigid, save too much).  Two opposite poles, they either lose good things or stop finding more good things.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases vs. stages.  (1) Stages can be defined as sequential or serial, perhaps causally related, and perhaps with a clear line of progress.  (2) Phases can be defined as non-sequential, perhaps not causally related, and perhaps with no clear line of progress.  ---  4/7/2001

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  (1) Micro-phases.  A few weeks or months.  Influenced in part by the seasons effect on our hormones.  (2) Macro-phases.  A few years.  Usually the time it takes for us to master and mine a challenging area of study.  (3) We are talking here about phases of interest.  That is, what interests us.  Phases of interest are related to phases of the physical body due to age.  And also related to phases of social roles.  And also related to phases of psychological development.  (4) Life is a series of phases of interest.  There is not necessarily any "progress".  We stay in an interest phase until we get bored, and then move on to another, thus exploring all areas of life.  (5) We do not have complete control over what phases of interest we will get into.  All we can do is make the most of the phase we are in.  Do not waste time.  Explore well.  Record your conclusions.  And try to pick the best next phase to get into.  ---  10/28/1998

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  (Example, rebel, travel, artist).  Why are phases necessary?  What do phases accomplish?  Problems: (1) Never getting into a phase (delayed entrance).  (2) Never getting out of phase (delayed exit).  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  A phase can be defined as:  (1) A course of study.  (2) A need fulfilled.  (When interests correspond to needs, that is good).  (3) A temporary meaning system.  (4) How to most quickly get the most out of a phase?  How to find and move on to the next phase?  That is the big question  ---  4/8/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  Get everything done in every stage.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  The general idea is you want to get certain things at certain times, for certain period of time, in certain order.  We go through phases.  They change as we change.  You never stabilize for long.  You change physically, your environment and experiences change, and your mind changes both in and of itself (development and decay of abilities) and in response to environment and experience.  Needs (emotional and intellectual) change.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Phases.  Which phases you hit, and which order you hit them.  What age you hit a phase, and how much time you spend in each phase.  How deep you get into a phase, and how much you get out of a phase.  Some or all the right answers vs. wrong answers.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Philosophy (metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, aesthetic) typical of each age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Potential vs. waste and loss at each age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Psychological development of the individual can be seen as working thought a series of sets of ideas or attitudes.  However, the goal is not for twentysomethings to have the same set of attitudes as eighty-year-olds.  To some degree each age has its own unique, optimal set of attitudes that is influenced by, among other things, the condition of your physical body and the roles one's age group plays in society.  So when we talk about psychological development and mental maturity we can distinguish between "mental maturity" meaning having a close to optimal set of attitudes for one's age, and "mental maturity" meaning having a set of attitudes of a senior citizen.  This is apart from definitions of "mature" as meaning knowledgeable, wise, fair, etc.  ---  10/25/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Psychological growth is not automatic.  Stagnation or devolution can occur in anyone, to any degree, for any duration.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Recognize and confront reality and problems of reality, in thought and in action.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Respect the old as much as you respect the young, and everyone.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Social norms about what reaching a chronological age means and entitles one to (if anything).  See sociology, age relations.  See sociology, children's rights.  See sociology, perceptions of elderly, forced retirement.  See sociology, ageism.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Society and age.  Importance age plays in a society: much vs. little importance.  Attitudes about age in a society.  Treating the old like crap, and the young like gold.  Versus, treating the old like gold, and the young like crap.  ---  01/01/1997

Psychology, development.  ---  Some pathological "black and white" thinkers believe that adults are all knowing and all powerful, and kids know nothing and deserve no power.  These pathological types are wrong on both counts.  The result is they have an over-inflated sense of self and they treat children very poorly.  ---  5/16/2001

Psychology, development.  ---  Stability vs. change in any mental or behavior element, in a situation vs. long term.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Stasis vs. change.  Flexibility vs. inflexibility or rigidity.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Steady growth is the goal.  Not a boom and bust brain.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Strengths vs. weaknesses of each age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Teens and twenties are an age of decadence, hedonism, self abuse, experience, learning, sex drugs and rock and roll, partying.  Thirties and forties are an age to slow down a little, ease off the abuse, take better care of self, get some work done, do some good, work ethic (learn, practice, do).  Fifties and sixties are an age to get ready to die, stoicism, suffer the dramatic decline and die.  ---  12/30/1995

Psychology, development.  ---  The ages as a physical, psychological, behavioral, and social phenomenon.  Social phenomenon: society sees and treats us differently.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  The cycle.  Age 0: You are born.  Your great grandparents die.  Age 25: Your kids are born.  Your grandparents die.  Age 50: Your grandkids are born.  Your parents die.  Age 75: Your great grandkids are born.  You die.  ---  08/30/1996

Psychology, development.  ---  The hounds are chasing me.  The ice hounds.  Day by day.  Time goes by.  Entropy.  Lessening me.  ---  3/11/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  The legal status of adulthood is different from the psychological status of adulthood and the physical status of adulthood.  The psychological status of adulthood depends on whether the individual has acquired a set of thoughts and emotions, that is, attitudes, on a series of topics.  The physical status of adulthood is a matter of having gone through puberty.  ---  12/4/2005

Psychology, development.  ---  Things you should do at each age.  Things that should happen to you at each age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Three cases: Living in honor of what we were as individuals.  Living in honor of what we are as individuals.  Living in honor of what we will be as individuals.  (2) Early in life we live in honor of what we will become.  In the middle of life we live in honor of what we are.  Late in life we live in honor of what we were.  What's up with that?  ---  2/10/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Three influences on development, none of which has complete control over development.  (1) Society.  Effects of society on the development of the individual.  Effects of family, peers, work, media, advertisers, legal system.  (2) Self.  Effects of self on development of individual.  A person can shape their own development.  (3) Genetics and heredity.  Effects of genetics and heredity on the development of the individual.  ---  7/31/2006

Psychology, development.  ---  To know what is going on (in life, in the world, in one's own life) can occur at any age.  ---  3/29/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  To some degree, a person can consciously and actively pick the direction and speed of their own development.  There are ways a person can develop further, faster, and better.  Development is not a completely passive thing.  Development is also not a foregone conclusion.  Take part in your own development.  ---  7/28/2006

Psychology, development.  ---  Traits of infants, kids, teens, young adults, middle age, old age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Transition from (1) Artist: gut feeling, drive, hormones, to (2) Philosopher: thinking and reason.  When does it take place?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Transitional states.  (1) Transitional states are needed to grow and develop.  They are more painful than usual.  They are more risky than usual.  Especially for people who fear change.  Especially for people who have a rigid self-identity.  Especially for people who have a fragile self-identity.  (2) Types of transitions.  (A) Change in meaning system.  (B) Change in either physical (body) or psychological (mental).  (C) Change in life circumstances.  Examples: teens, age 30, age 40.  ---  3/20/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Two paradoxes.  (1) Who is fully developed?  No one.  (2) When does decay start?  Immediately.  ---  3/29/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Type of change, how much you change, for better worse.  Change: direction, speed, distance.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Use what you got while you got it.  Cause when you don't you can't.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Value and goal changes at each age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Ways how to live longer, ways how to live better.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  We mutate unavoidably into dust.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  What are our standards or criterion for development?  (1) Do we measure people against other people?  For example, peer groups of same age, or the entire population, or paradigmatic examples.  (2) Do we measure people by abilities or skills?  ---  11/13/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  What are the criteria for excellence at any age?  For example, one could be a great child but a mediocre adult.  ---  5/29/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  What happens between teens and middle age that changes us for worse?  Boring, hung up, jerks.  How can these negative changes be stopped or reversed?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  What is development?  (1) Living longer.  Living healthier.  Better quality of life.  Happier.  Feeling well.  More productive.  (2) Physical well being and psychological well being.  Physical health requires exercise, nutrition and rest.  Psychological health requires psychological exercise (thinking), psychological nutrition (new experiences) and psychological rest (give your brain a rest occasionally).  ---  5/27/2005

Psychology, development.  ---  What is the relationship between psychological development and psychological health?  Psychological problems can slow psychological development.  Psychological development is a sign of psychological health.  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  What psychological abilities or traits can humans develop in the areas of memory, emotion, thinking, etc.?  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  What shall we judge by?  What can you accomplish at each age?  Is what you accomplish good?  Can what you accomplish last?  What about those who cannot accomplish anything?  (For example, the very young and the very old).  ---  5/29/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  What you learn, when.  Truth vs. false.  Enough vs. not enough.  Too early vs. on-time vs. too late.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  When young, one's mind and life is more automatic, instinctual, unconscious.  One simply does things naturally.  When older, one's mind and life becomes more deliberate, conscious, considered.  The mental change is a result of the aging process.  The mental change requires an adjustment in tactics.  Be reflective, thoughtful, philosophical.  Sort it out.  Hash it out.  Mull it over.  Sift through it.  Talk it through.  Write on it.  ---  7/1/2006

Psychology, development.  ---  Wisdom is acquired by capacity, not age.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) Childhood obsessions: (A) Baseball cards (flip, scale, match and dematch).  (B) Candy (gum, hard candy, chocolate).  (C) Clubhouses, tin-can and string phones, walkie talkies.  (2) Teen obsessions: music, movies, cars, sex, sports.  (3) Adult obsessions: women, money, booze, mate, kids, work, save the world.  ---  5/31/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) Childhood.  Time moved slowly.  No freedom at home.  No freedom at school.  (2) Adulthood.  Time moves very fast.  Freedom at home.  Freedom to pick job.  ---  7/25/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) What can you remember from looking at the faces of the young?  (2) What can you predict from looking at the faces of the old?  ---  5/27/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) When you are young  (A) You have plenty of time, and  (B) You are all potential, having not tested your limits yet.  (C) Thus, you feel good, because there is no telling how good things could get.  (2) When you are old  (A) You have no time left, and (B) You have reached your potential, found your limits.  (C) Thus, you feel bad, because you know what you can and can't do, and even if you could, there is no time.  This aside from drops in ability (endurance, strength, sharpness, etc.)  ---  12/30/1996

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) Youth is externally centered.  Youth finds meaning in objects (ex. Teddy bear).  The world (environment) is what you see and experience.  (2) Age is internally centered.  Environment is less important to them.  Ideas are more important.  Your world is what you think (mental world).  In old age they live off their memories.  ---  10/01/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) Youth:  You are a new body.  The experiences of the world seem new to you.  (2) Old age:  You are an old body.  The experiences of the world seem old two you.  ---  11/12/2004

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  (1) Youths face tremendous internal psychological pressure to rebel in order to  (A) Search for and assert your own individuality and independence.  (B) Also to have sex, drugs, and rock and roll when everyone says you shouldn't (after they already have).     (2) Adults face tremendous external pressure to conform.  (A) For financial survival we conform to work.  (B) For sex we conform to society's values.     (3) This is why the young are beautiful (full of ideals and new ideas), but quickly turn ugly (survival machines), not just in looks but in character.  ---  03/30/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  As a kid I had dreams and hopes, and had made no big mistakes yet.  As an adult I have few hopes and dreams, and have made a lot of big mistakes.  ---  05/30/1993

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  Youngsters among their peers do not see themselves as young.  Oldsters among their peers do not see themselves as old.  Only outsiders recognize them as young and old.  ---  8/8/2001

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  Youth = total idealism.  Old age = total practicality.  Keep a balance of the two.  ---  09/17/1994

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  Youth: almost all future, and very little past.  Old age: almost all past and very little future.  These are two very different frames of mind.  Two different beings.  ---  4/8/2000

Psychology, development.  ---  Young and old.  Youth: impatient, emotional, active.  Adults: patient, rational, still.  ---  5/29/2002

Psychology, development.  ---  Young at heart vs. immature.  Unchanging vs. changing.  ---  04/30/1993

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