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Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  .This section is about various other specific emotions.  Topics include: ( ) Appreciation.  ( ) Contentment.  ( ) Desperation.  ( ) Embarrassment.  Humiliation.  ( ) Jealousy.  Envy.  ( ) List of emotions.  ( ) Loneliness.  Solitude seeking.  ( ) Obsession.  ( ) Pride.  ( ) Redemption.  ( ) Remorse.  ( ) Social emotions.  ( ) Surprise.  ---  1/24/2006

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  (1) What is the neuro-chemistry of amazement?  What brain chemicals make people gaze in wonder at things like hot and  cold running water, electric light switches, and supermarkets?  (2) What is the neuro-chemistry of the emotion of ecstasy?  What brain chemicals cause people to feel transcendent?  (3) What is the neuro-chemistry of mania and manic energy?  (4) Amazement, ecstasy and manic energy are three distinct yet related brain states.  ---  4/1/2005

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Admiration is a tricky emotion.  Someone likes you.  They have pinned their ideals on you.  You have become the embodiment of their ideals.  They did not do so consciously.  And they did not notify you.  Do not treat the fact that someone admires you lightly.  There is a lot riding on it.  An entire world of perfection hangs in the balance.  Admiration is really about the values being admired.  It's not about you.  ---  3/5/2002

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Appreciation.  Appreciating what you have, and had.  Counting your blessings.  Appreciating the little things in life.  Emotional appreciation (emotion) vs. intellectual appreciation (ethics).  ---  10/30/1993

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Content and its relationship to feeling peaceful and calm.  ---  3/24/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Content.  (1) I don't want to be so discontent that I screw up my life by throwing away the acceptable.  (2) I don't want to be so content that I never grow.  (3) There is a balance somewhere.  ---  04/30/1993

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Content.  (1)(A) Content as smug (bad).  (B) Content as grateful (good).  (2)(A) Discontent as griping or complaining (bad).  (B) Discontent as striving to improve (good).  ---  3/24/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Content.  Being contented means (1) Knowing what's important and not and why.  (2) Keeping goals in mind.  (3) Not flying off the handle, or over the edge.  ---  12/30/1995

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Contentment is a form of happiness.  Discontentment or dissatisfaction is a form of painful emotion.  ---  4/10/2001

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Contentment.  Count your blessings.  Thank your lucky stars.  There a lot of people worse off than you.  Be grateful for what you have.  Contentment is an important emotion.  Buddhists believe desire causes misery.  Desire is important, but so is contentment.  ---  9/4/1998

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Crying and laughing are weird behaviors.  It seems like they are both involuntary behaviors that may be residual animal instincts that were kept as humans evolved.  Crying and laughing seem like instinctual forms of animal communication.  ---  3/29/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Desperation is a stage beyond mere urgency.  When it comes to getting things done there is nothing like desperation.  Some people say  "Necessity is the mother of invention", however, I think desperation is the mother of invention.  So get desperate!  Yet be warned, desperation can backfire, leaving a trail of bodies in its wake.  So don't get that desperate!  ---  11/9/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Disgust.  Many of the things that humans find gross or disgusting are things associated with disease.  Also, rotten food is another item that provokes disgust.  Anything that makes you want to vomit is disgusting.  ---  9/11/2005

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Doubt and disbelief vs. distrust and wariness.  The two pairs often go hand in hand.  ---  5/18/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Doubt.  (1) The thought of doubt.  (2) The feeling of doubt, both emotional feelings and physical feelings.  To feel unsure.  (3) The feeling of doubt is just as important as thoughts of doubt in terms of keeping a person alive.  (4) Feelings of doubt are just as important as feelings of certainty in keeping a person alive.  Any degree that you are not certain is the degree that you doubt.  ---  5/18/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Embarrassment and humiliation.  (1) What's the difference?  Embarrassment by something you did?  Humiliated by something done to you?  (2) Are these both strictly social emotions?  Can we feel humiliated or embarrassed when alone?  ---  3/29/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Embarrassment.  (1) To be caught doing the disgusting causes what emotion?  Example, to be caught drooling on oneself.  (2) To be caught doing the childish causes what emotion?  Embarrassment?  These are things that you do to yourself.  Example, to be caught talking and playing like a child.  (3) To be caught doing wrong (dastardly evil) causes what emotion?  Guilt? Shame?  (4) To be socially mocked.  To be beaten in competition.  To be rejected by another person.  These are all social pecking order things.  These are things that other people do to you.  What kind of emotion do they cause?  Humiliation?  ---  5/25/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Embarrassment.  (1) We can feel shame and guilt even when we are not caught by others.  We can feel embarrassment and humiliation even when alone and not observed by others.  (2)(A) We can feel these emotions before the fact, in an anticipatory sense (guiding behavior).  (B) We can feel these emotions long after the fact (continuing to guide your behavior).  ---  5/25/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Envy and jealousy are important social emotions.  They are so strong they spur people to achieve, and also to commit crimes.  ---  4/10/2001

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Humor.  See: Arts, literature, comedy.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Jealousy.  My girlfriend does not get angry-jealous, but she does get sad-jealous.  ---  8/27/1998

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Drive associated emotions.  Horny, hungry, thirsty.  Encouraged vs. discouraged.  Directed vs. not directed.  Inspired vs. not inspired.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Glib, smug, smarmy, self-satisfied, over-confident.  ---  12/28/2003

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Moods.  Crappy, shitty, bitchy.  Productive vs. non-productive.  Passive vs. aggressive.  Conformist vs. rebellious.  Optimist vs. pessimist.  Mood helping you vs. mood hurting you.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Neutral emotions, including social emotions.  Resolution vs. unresolved.  Cautious vs. careless.  Astonished, overwhelmed, wonder, incredulous.  Reprisal.  Pride, boast, vanity, arrogance, insolence.  Humility, modesty.  Self esteem, self dignity, self respect, self worth.  Self obligations, duty to self.  Self discipline, self confidence.  Sympathy, empathy.  Confused vs. clear.  Hard: cruel.  Cold: unfeeling.  Passionate: feeling.  Warm: friendly.  Hot: sexy.  Soft: weak.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Pain emotions.  Physical: sensation. Mental: emotion.  Hate, loathing, anger, rage, dislike.  Laziness, inertia, desire.  Sadness, depression.  Lamentation, bereavement, grief.  Deprivation, disappointment.  Boredom, dullness, tedium.  Frustration, aggravation.  Fear, anxiety, nervous.  Horror.  Resentment.  Indecisive.  Impatient.  Tired, unmotivated.  Serious, solemn.  Malevolent.  Hopeless.  Longing, missing.  Jealousy, envy.  Cowardice vs. bravery.  Loneliness.  Abused.  Uncomfortable, comfortable.  Discontent, content.  Guilty, remorse vs. remorseless.  Regret vs. no regrets.  Unsure, unconfident, worry, paranoid.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Pleasure emotions.  Physical pleasure: sensation.  Mental pleasure: emotion.  Pride, smug.  Contentment, satisfaction.  Happy, amused, cheerful, rejoicing, optimistic.  Celebration, relieved, comfortable.  Brave, courageous, fearless.  Kicking ass, victorious, confident.  Reprisal, retaliation, revenge.  Sexy, lust, loving, like.  Patient, accomplishment, benevolent.  Hopeful, jolly, silly, loony, wacky, zany.  Fearless, assertive, aggressive, confrontational.  Committed.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Pouty, sullen, sadness, sorrow.  ---  12/28/2003

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Lists of emotions.  Some emotions listed in notes.  Anger.  Bravery/cowardice.  Confidence.  Excitement vs. peace, calm.  Boredom vs. interest.  Happiness, pleasure.  Hope vs. hopelessness.  Humor and lack of vs. seriousness and triviality.  Optimism vs. pessimism.  Pain (see also anger and sad) vs. pleasure, happiness.  Respect, dignity.  Sadness, depression.  Worry, anxiety, fear, paranoia, guilt, regret.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Loneliness.  (1) Desire or longing for any thing (see metaphysics).  (2) Missing someone specific vs. people in general.  (3) Amount you feel vs. how long since you interacted with people.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Loneliness.  (1) Loneliness of being physically alone.  (2) Loneliness of being psychologically alone.  Of having no one.  (3) The second is much worse.  ---  11/13/1999

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Loneliness.  Amount of being alone vs. amount of loneliness.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Loneliness.  See: Sociology, solitude.  ---  5/25/2005

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Loneliness.  The physical aspect of loneliness is a dull ache in the entire body, especially in the front half, especially when it is loneliness or longing for a person.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Longing, regret and desire.  To what extent do people miss or regret not having things they never knew about?  For example, to what degree did the ancients miss or regret not having airplanes and telephones?  To what degree do we today miss or regret not having time travel and whatever else they may invent in the future?  ---  6/8/2001

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Mortifying.  There is something satisfying about mortifying someone.  Seeing the shock and horror on their faces as their ill-founded aesthetic tastes are assaulted.  They were so concerned about appearance with no substance.  I will give them substance without appearance.  ---  11/18/2001

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Obsession.  Guilt as a form of obsession.  Reoccurring thoughts and feelings (attitudes).  Do I feel guilty or am I obsessing?  ---  7/7/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Pity.  What causes more pity than to hear someone shout, "I don't want your pity!"?  ---  2/23/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Pride.  Competitive pride accounts for a lot of the world's progress.  The idea that "I am better than you".  ---  12/26/1997

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Pseudo dignity.  Pseudo self importance.  Pseudo seriousness.  Pretensions.  Condescending.  Sanctimonious.  Some people have an over-inflated sense of self importance.  Some people make excessive demands for respect from others.  ---  7/16/2006

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Questions for each specific emotion.  (1) What causes it: in general and in me.  (2) What are effects of it: positive and negative, in general and in me.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Questions.  (1) When should I feel an emotion, and not, and how much.  (2) Ideal, problems, techniques approaches.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Questions.  Ways to classify emotions.  (1) In trees, families, types and subtypes. (2) By pairs: opposites.  (3) By major and minor, important and unimportant.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Questions.  What is the best and worst way to deal with an emotion?  (1) Good ways.  (A) Feel it, acknowledge it.  (B) Think what the cause was.  (C) Deal with the cause: instantly or asap, and totally, for catharsis and justice.  (2) Bad ways to deal with an emotion.  (A) Not feeling (repressing emotions).  (B) Not thinking about it (repressing thoughts).  (C) Not doing anything (repressing actions).  (D) Taking out feeling on an innocent.  (E) Only partially feeling, thinking, saying, and acting.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Redemption.  (1) Those who feel they have to redeem themselves.  Even when they don't.  (2) Those who don't feel they have to redeem themselves.  Even when they do.  (3) Who gets more done?  (4) Redeem themselves how and why?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Relaxed and calm versus hectic and frazzled and uptight.  Relaxed can be physical or mental, and its opposite, tense can be physical or mental.  ---  4/15/2007

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Remorse is different from guilt.  (1) You have done wrong.  (2) You were responsible (guilt).  (3) You are sorry (remorse).  ---  5/20/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Remorse.  We expect criminals to show remorse.  Do we expect non-criminals to show remorse?  Sometimes I get angry at people because they show no (existential) remorse.  Somewhere there has to be some remorse in a person.  Just as somewhere in a person there has to be some brash braggadocio.  ---  5/20/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions felt toward others.  Like, love.  Dislike, hate.  Respect, admiration.  Contempt.  Loneliness.  Jealousy, envy.  ---  9/29/1998

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  (1) Altruism: acting against self for someone else.  (2) Sympathy: feeling emotions for someone else.  (3) See sociobiology.  Evolution of emotions and ethics in humans.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  (1) Positive social emotions:  Openness.  Camaraderie.  Belonging.  Connectedness.  Helpfulness.  Caring.  Nurturing.  Protective.  Providing.  Pity.  Sympathy.  (2) Negative social emotions:  Envy.  Jealousy.  Ennui.  Isolation.  Alienation.  Loneliness.  Guardedness.  Hurtful.  Viscous.  Disaffected.  Fear.  Anger.  Hypercompetitive.  Spiteful.  Vituperative.  Bitchy.  Catty.  Needy.  Too distant.  ---  12/30/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  A person x seems to care about what other humans feel about person x.  In fact, if person x does not care at all about what other persons feel about the behavior of person x then many people would call person x a sociopath.  On the other hand, humans often behave based on principle, regardless of what other persons may think, and that can be a good thing.  So the entire realm of social emotions, that is, the interplay of emotions a person x feels toward other people and the emotions other people feel toward person x, is a nebulous, shifting realm.  ---  8/30/2005

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  Most people want to be accepted, respected, liked, loved, stroked, complimented.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  Respect is long and hard to develop, and quickly and easily destroyed, with words, or with actions.  (2) Trust: similar situation as above.  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  Trust vs. mistrust.  Like vs. dislike.  Love vs. hate.  Care vs. disregard.  Respect vs. no respect.  Loneliness vs. sociability.  Envy and jealousy.  To mock.  Social pride and pecking orders.  Cooperative vs. competitive.  Encouraged vs. discouraged.  ---  3/29/2000

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Social emotions.  Wariness vs. trust: justified or unjustified, by degree.  Trust who, to do what, in what situation, in face of what temptations?  ---  12/30/1992

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Subtle, overlooked emotions.  Words often left in the dictionary.  Wariness.  Flustered.  Bereft.  Anticipation.  Serene.  Sang froid.  Haughtiness.  Peevish.  Elan.  Disconcerted.  Perturbed.  ---  9/29/1998

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Surprise me.  That is the only hope we have.  The unexpected good surprises.  ---  2/24/2002

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Surprise, Judging and Tolerance.     PART ONE.  Surprise.  Surprise for better.  Surprise for worse.  Based on: (A) Initial situation.  (B) Your expectations.  (C) Your estimates of probabilities.  (D) No surprise means a confirmation of our expectations.     PART TWO.  Judging.  We all judge.  We cannot not judge.  Judging is not something that we choose to do.  Some people say not to judge others, but that is impossible.  Other people say, "don't be so quick to judge".     PART THREE.  Tolerance.  There are at least two types of tolerance.  (A) Tolerating someone to lead their own life.  Some people do not do even this, and they protest the rights of others to live their lives.  (B) Tolerating someone to be in your life.  Tolerating people to be your friends.  To not do this is to not associate with a person.     PART FOUR.  All three of the above (Surprise, Judging, and Tolerance) are related.  We form a judgment of a person, then the person can surprise us to any degree, in either direction, positive or negative, and then we decide whether to tolerate the person.     PART FIVE.  More on Toleration.  (A) Things that we don't tolerate in society: murder, etc.  (B) Things that I don't tolerate in my life:  People who abuse or neglect me, whether intentionally or unintentionally.  Or people who display even the possibility of even potentially abusing or neglecting me.     PART SIX.  In general, in my life: My expectations have decreased.  Thus positive surprises have been greater.  But my requirements for friendship have become more defined.  Thus my tolerance has become less.  ---  11/9/1999

Psychology, emotion, specific.  ---  Surprise, stress, coping, relaxation and post-traumatic stress syndrome.  (1) To what degree is the emotion of surprise associated with stress and PTSD?.  Some people get PTSD from everyday life.  Some people are so sensitive that everyday life gives them PTSD.  (2) Surprise as stress.  Even good surprises are stressful.  Bad surprises are stress.  Surprises are stressful.  And what isn't a surprise?  Nothing happens exactly like we expect it to.  (3) People who are easily surprised (freaked out) go nuts more easily (?).  People who are psychologically fragile, and on the edge, are easily freaked out.  (4) Surprise and shock.  Surprises put one into a state of shock.  (5) The point is, if surprise is one of the basic human emotions, which is what it is recognized as, then the associated issues of stress, shock, PSTD and coping skills become much more important.  ---  5/10/1999

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