Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- .This section is about bullying. Topics include: ( ) Causes of bullying ( ) Description of the bully. ( ) How to handle the bully. ( ) Misguided beliefs of the bully. ( ) Treacherous goals of the bully. ( ) Types of bully. ( ) Unethical tactics of the bully. --- 1/24/2006
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Bullies want you to either join and support them in bullying, or silently submit to their bullying. The way to handle bullies is to expose them and denounce their bullying. --- 10/23/2005
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. (1) Needs to feel in control. Order freak. (2) Needs to feel like a man. Homophobe. (3) Needs to feel strong. Eugenicist, wants to kill off the weak. --- 10/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. (1) The "realpolitik" bully. The bully wants you to think and act in their interests, and the bully uses the unethical tactics of harassment, threat and force rather than reason. (2) The bully wants attention. (3) The bully feels inferior and wants to feel superior. The bully is not content to be an equal among equals. --- 6/3/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Apathy, selfishness and lack of empathy on the part of the bully is a major cause of bullying. The bully simply not caring what he does to others. --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Development of the bully. (1) The self-taught bully figures out early on in life, due to being bigger and stronger, that he can get his way by bullying others, and he never figures out why he shouldn't bully others. (2) The bully taught by others. (A) The bully taught passively by watching other people bully. The bully taught passively by living with a bully. The bully taught passively by living in a bully culture. (B) The bully taught actively. The bully taught to bully by another bully, intentionally. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Development of the bully. Bullying tendencies. The angry personality. The aggressive personality. The combination angry and aggressive personality. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Development of the bully. Development of three types of bully. (1) The bully who develops an addiction to power. (2) The bully who fails to develop ethically. The bully who does not develop empathy or altruism. (3) The bully who develops an ideological agenda and will do anything to carry it out, no matter how ruthless. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Development of the bully. There are many ways that bullies develop. There are many causes of bullying behavior. Unopposed power. Abuse of power. Unchecked power. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Some people are content to be left alone and are content to leave others alone. Yet, bullies enjoy messing with other people. Why? They crave attention and recognition from others. They need to feel better about themselves. --- 6/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. The bully is addicted to power. Bullying is a form of power addiction. This view is sometimes used as an excuse by the bully. They say its genetic and they can't help it. Baloney. --- 12/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. The bully want desperately to be a man. They mistakenly think that being a man means being mean, nasty and cruel. So they try to be mean, nasty and cruel. --- 6/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. What produces a bully? (1) Lack of empathy by the bully. Disregard for other people by the bully. (2) Us vs. them mentality. (3) They learn it. They were bullied as kids. Its all they know. (4) Inculcated with blind belief and blind obedience. (5) Feel insecure. (6) Excess anger. (7) Power mad. The bully wants absolute power. --- 10/10/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Why bullies bully. (1) Bullies bully because they mistakenly think bullying is fun. (2) Bullies bully because they want resources like power, status and money, at any cost and by any means. (3) Bullies bully because they mistakenly think they are doing the right thing. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Why do some people like messing with other people? They can't live with themselves. --- 5/3/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of bullying. Why does the bully want so much power? Why does he want to feel powerful? Why is he power mad? Because otherwise he feels weak, ineffectual, powerless, useless, dead, impotent, like a nobody, like a nothing, a non-entity. And he can't stand feeling that way. --- 10/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of the bully. The bully is trying to exercise control over his own life by bullying others. That is, the bully is trying to exercise control over his own life by exercising unethical control over other people's lives. The bully has a control problem in three major ways. The bully has control problems related to authority. The bully has control problems related to the people he bullies. And perhaps most importantly, the bully has a sense of lack of control over his own life, and that is what causes him to try to exercise unethical control over other people's life. By trying to control other people's lives the bully is really trying to control his own life. --- 12/14/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Causes of the bully. Why people bully. (1) Money, greed. To try and sell it. For a profit. (2) Ideological. They think they are right and you are wrong. (3) Amoral. No empathy. No ethics. Don't care. (4) To try and prove how clever they are. They do it for fun these days. Curiosity. They don't realize the damage. They don't foresee the damage. --- 8/4/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of bullying. PART ONE. (1) What is a bully? A bully uses threat and force. A bully uses intimidation, terror and coercion. (2) Why does the bully bully? To feel self worth. To get what he wants. PART TWO. Bullying, three definitions of. (1) Bullying as a social skills problem. Don't know exactly how to act. (2) Intentional bullying. Know its wrong and do it anyway. (3) Messianic bullying. Thinking you are right and justified when actually you are wrong and unjustified. --- 6/23/2000
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of bullying. The bully (1) Wants to do whatever he/she wants. (2) Wants to make other do what he/she wants. (A) Regardless of what others think or say. (B) Regardless of other's rights. (C) Without consideration for other people's needs, feelings, etc. (3) Types of bullies. (A) The bully in school, as a child. (B) The bully as tyrant parent. Family dictator. (C) The bully as unreasonable boss at work. (D) The bully as potential political dictator. Or groups of bullies (military dictatorship). (4) The psychology, sociology and politics of bullies. The development of the bully. How the bully "minds". Chief prey of the bully: the person who lets others walk all over him, the person who is not able to fight to stick up for self. Effects of the bully on others. Techniques for how to handle bullies. --- 02/28/1998
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Bullies claim to be about freedom, but only because they want to be free to victimize others. They claim to be about justice, but theirs is no justice. Theirs is oppression, exploitation, violence and terror. They claim to want to be left alone, but they need someone to mess with. They claim to act only in self defense, but that is not true either. --- 10/4/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Bullies don't care who they have to step on to get their way. --- 10/10/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Bullies represent an abuse of power. Bullies abuse their power when they abuse other people. Power unjustly taken. Power unjustly used. --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Definitions of a bully. Abuse of power. Unethical use of power. --- 3/10/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. If you call bullies fascists they take it as a compliment because they believe in exterminating "the weak" (i.e., anyone who does not blindly follow them). --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Terrorism. (1) Terrorism defined as killing civilians. (2) Terrorism defined as random violence. (3) Terror as trying to incapacitate people with fear. Intimidation. Threats of physical harm, or destruction of property. Coercion. Brute force. PART TWO. Two types of terrorism. (1) Random, arbitrary, public violence toward strangers and innocents, that one takes responsibility for publicly. Vs. (2) Directed, private secret anonymous violence or threats or harassment. --- 11/18/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Terrorists and terrorism, definitions of. (1) Kill civilians. (2) Maim civilians. (3) Destroy civilian property, like blowing up buildings. Steal property. Hijack planes. (4) Take hostages. (5) Induce terror, fear and anxiety in the public. --- 11/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. The bully can exist on the extreme right or left. Extreme, fanatical, radical, fundamentalist. So the concept of the bully transcends the "left / right" political distinction. The problem is not left vs. right; the problem is the bully, especially the secret bully. --- 12/19/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. The bully is callous. With little empathy. Low self esteem. Poor ethical reasoning. Power hungry. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. The terrorist is a bully. The bully is a terrorist. --- 1/9/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. There are some people who enjoy messing with other people. They are waiting for what they consider to be a good enough reason mess with other people. They are waiting for a good enough means to mess with other people. They will use any reason and any means to mess with other people. --- 6/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Two principles. (1) The bully feels he can't win unless he bullies. (2) The bully feels he has to win at any cost. --- 12/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. What can one say about bullies? They have ways of making people talk (about their disgraceful behavior). --- 10/4/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Whenever power is abused, from the left or right, violence, terror and destruction are used. --- 11/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Description of the bully. Who is opposed to free speech for the masses? The bully is opposed to free speech for the masses. Who wants to use terror to purge the Internet of free speech? The bully wants to use terror to purge the Internet of free speech. --- 12/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. (1) At some level, bullies want you to support them, adopt their tactics, become like them, adopt their philosophy, because it validates their warped world view and twisted attitudes. (2) Or the bully wants you to submit wordlessly, knuckle under. The bully wants you to shut up. (3) Or they want you to leave, so that they can bully on in peace. (4) What to do? Take the ethical high ground. Work the problem. Leave if necessary. Talk about it. --- 10/12/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. (1) Don't be a bully. (2) Don't join the bullies. (3) Don't support your local bully. (4) Avoid making deals with bullies. --- 2/28/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. (1) Don't become a bully. Don't bully others. (2) Don't support bullies. Don't aid bullies. (3) Don't turn a blind eye to bullies. (4) Speak out against bullying. (5) Learn to identify bullies and bullying behaviors. Learn to spot the signs of secret bullies. --- 1/9/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. (1) Non-violent passive resistance. (2) Large numbers of people resisting. (3) Get the world out. Speak up. (4) Larger, more ethical forces. --- 4/7/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Don't engage in bullying behavior. Don't join those who bully. Don't support those who bully. Avoid dealings with those who bully. --- 2/28/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Don't support your local bully. --- 10/31/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Know about bullies. Know what to expect from bullies. Do not become a bully nor a target. Do not remain a target if you are targeted by bullies. Do not panic. Do not cave in to fear. Don't be intimidated. Do not isolate yourself. Talk with friends. --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Learn to recognize bully tactics. Share your bully defense stories. --- 5/14/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Mass non-violent resistance vs. local bully. --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Some people live their lives inconspicuously, in the hopes that the bully will not bother them. That is a mistaken strategy in that many bullies operate on the principle of messing with everyone at least once. --- 5/14/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Stand up for what you believe in. Continue to think and feel and speak and act. Do not be coerced or intimidated into fear, silence, non-thought and non-action. Do not be surprised or afraid if a bully or a group of bullies targets you at some point in your life. Do not lose your hope and enjoyment in life. Do not lose your confidence in people. Most people are basically good. Do not let long-term (chronic) or short-term (acute) unethical opposition bother or deter you. --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Talk about it. Avoid isolation and silence. --- 11/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. There are many ways to protect yourself from bullies. Ways to avoid being bullied. There are ways to reduce bullying behavior. Expose bullying to the light of day. Use reason to explain to them not to bully. Show people how to handle bullies. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Things to say to a bully, "You don't scare me." --- 2/21/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Things to say to bullies. "Does that make you feel tough? Does that make you feel like a man? Picking on people?" --- 10/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- How to handle the bully. Those living under bullies are of three types. (1) The collaborators who fall for the "join us" pitch. (2) The fear, silence, ignorance, denial crowd. (3) The resistance. --- 10/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Introduction. (1) What is a bully? A power abuser. Unethical. (2) Why do people bully? (A) Actual causes of bully behavior. (B) Reasons bullies give for their behavior. (3) How do bullies bully? Tactics of bullies. (4) How to handle bullies? Tactics of handling bullies. --- 1/31/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. "The bad we do is balanced or mitigated by the good we do. We only want to break even, so any good we do gives us the right to do bad". --- 11/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. (1) Bullies claim to be about justice, but they are not. (2) Bullies claim to be about safety. Safe for them to abuse their power. (3) Bullies claim to want to be left alone. But the bullies main purpose is to mess with other people. (4) Bullies try to explain away their actions as being "natural" or "manly". Wrong. (5) Bullies claim to be reasonable, but they are not about reason so much as they are about blind belief and blind obedience. --- 9/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. Bullies lame attempts at justifying their actions. (1) "Its natural". As if everything "natural" is good. How about poison mushrooms and hurricanes? And as if "unnatural" things are bad. How about artificial legs? Do the bullies want to go back to the law of the jungle? They do in fact. The bully believes that "might makes right". (2) "That's how it was in the past." The appeal to tradition and dogmatism. The mistake of thinking everything in the past was good. The "good old days" fallacy. The "good old boys" fallacy. The mistake of thinking everything new is bad. The mistake of thinking the future is bad. The mistake of thinking everything old is good. --- 10/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. Bully attitudes. (1) The bully believes women are inferior. Believes women should shut up and do as they are told. (2) The bully believes in the inferiority of other races. (3) The bully believes they always have to win. Believes they always have to be the best. (4) The bully believes he is a "real man" and that somehow others are not. (5) The bully achieves his ends through force, threat, intimidation, terror, harassment, humiliation, etc. (6) The bully believes in command and emotive appeals, not reason. --- 10/9/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. Bully phrases. "I do whatever I want to do, regardless. No one tells me what to do. I tell others what to do." --- 10/9/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. By abusing people the bully sometimes mistakenly thinks that he is: (1) Teaching people a lesson, or otherwise educating the person. (2) Doing their job as a bully. (3) Doing what they feel they were born to do. Being who they feel they are. That is, the bully has come to accept himself as a bully. --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. Lame excuses bullies make. (1) Sometimes you have to do bad to do good. (2) The bad we do is balanced by the good we do. --- 10/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The bully believes in the "one right way". The bully believes that his way is the "one and only right way". The bully thinks everyone should do everything his way. Thus, the bully lacks tolerance and diversity. --- 10/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The bully says, "In order to beat you (i.e., in order to win), I must beat you (i.e., I must physically, verbally or psychologically assault you, or threaten you, or harass you.)" --- 12/24/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The bully thinks he is big daddy, king, dictator, god. The bully feels he always has to win. The biggest irony of the bully is that they choose to operate in democracy. They choose to live in a system whose principles they don't adhere to. --- 9/29/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The bully will try to think of every lame excuse and weak rationalization he can to abuse his power. And he comes up with a lot. (See Philosophy, ethics, reasons people give for doing wrong.). --- 12/18/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The bully's bankrupt reply is usually, "By preventing me from bullying other people, you are bullying me." --- 12/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. The weak reasons bullies give for using strong-arm tactics. --- 3/31/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Misguided beliefs of the bully. They use excuses like: "The government is crooks, liars, bullies, corrupt, and its laws are unjust", in order to try to excuse their own unethical actions. --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Sum up. (1) Attitudes of the bully. Behavior of the bully. (2) Unethical tactics of the bully: abuse and threats; physical, verbal and psychological. To induce fear and silence. (3) More unethical tactics of bullies: Group bullying. Gossip, ostracism, malicious mocking, harassment, terror, invasion of privacy, isolating the target. (4) Treacherous goals of the bully: push people around. (5) More treacherous goals of bullies: They want your silence, consent, approval and ignorance. They don't want the light of day shining on them. (6) Types of bullies. Location of the bully: school, work, neighborhood, Internet, family, corporation, government. (7) Sociology of those living under bullies. --- 10/10/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Sum up. (1) Treacherous goals of the bully. (2) Unethical tactics of the bully. Legal, but unethical tactics. Illegal tactics. Invade privacy, spy. Pester, annoy, harass. Mock, humiliate, slander. Threaten, terrorize, stalk (illegal). Abuse, beat. Burgle (illegal). Destroy (illegal). Murder (illegal). (3) Resistance to the bully. Talk about bullying. Educate yourself and others about bullying, why its wrong, and how to avoid it. --- 12/13/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. Bully culture. The bully tries to build a bully culture to support his way of life and to try to legitimatize his way of life. Bullying is taught, consciously or unconsciously, by bully parents to bully children. --- 12/18/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. Bully wants to turn you into either a bully or a victim. By bullying you they want you to become a bully. They want you to adopt their attitudes and bully someone else. Bullies want bullying to become accepted by society. Bullies want to create a bully dictatorship. Because legitimizing bullying is one of the few ways the bully will survive and flourish. The decay of civilization and the breakdown of law is a situation in which the bully thrives. --- 11/21/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully beats you up for the following reasons: (1) So he can feel like a man. (2) So he can feel superior to you. (3) So he can raise his low self esteem. (4) So he can continue running his racket without interruption. (5) So he can continue messing with people and abusing power in other ways. (6) Because he thinks its fun, and he thinks it feels good, and because he can't tell its wrong, and because he has no conscience, empathy or ethical reasoning skills. --- 12/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully has power but craves legitimacy. But the bully has no legitimacy. The bully tries to sneak into legitimacy. Sneaking. --- 12/22/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully is trying to protect and defend a flawed philosophy and an unethical way of life. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully measures his self worth by how many people he/she can intimidate and coerce. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully wants a world in which bullying is condoned, tolerated or accepted, because that is a world in which the bully can thrive. That is a world in which it is easier for the bully to operate. That is a world in which it is easier for the bully to take advantage of people. (2) On the other hand, a world in which bullying is not tolerated, not condoned, and not accepted is a world in which the bully has to play fair. So lets not tolerate bullying. Make it tougher for the bully to operate. Make it tougher for the bully to take advantage of people. --- 12/13/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully wants to be able to say, "Ha, ha. I beat you up. I made you cry. I made you scared." (ala Simpson's Nelson Muntz). --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully wants to beat up half the people in order to keep the other half in terror. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The bully wants to feel like a "real man" or a "big man". (See Sociology > hoax of "real man"). --- 10/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The goal of the bully is to beat up people until people do things the bully's way. --- 10/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The goal of the bully is to have you live in fear. The goal of the terrorist is to have you live in fear. The bully is a terrorist. --- 12/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The goal of the bully is to pile up stressors (like threats, harassment, abuse, etc.) until you are exhausted and have a nervous breakdown and either give up or go crazy and simply can't function. --- 12/19/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. The goal of the bully is to traumatize people. Psychological trauma. Psychological injury. The bully inflicts trauma unconsciously or consciously, in varying degrees. The bully inflicts trauma unintentionally or intentionally, in varying degrees. --- 1/15/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. Two unethical goals of the bully. (1) The bully wants to boss you around. (2) The bully wants to say that nobody is the boss of him. He does whatever he wants. No one tells him what to do. Bully feels no compunction to be ethical and obey laws. --- 2/18/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. What the bully wants. The bully wants power, and anything that will increase their power (ex. money, information), in order to abuse their power. --- 12/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. What the bully wants. The bully wants the freedom to bully other people. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. What they bully wants. The bully wants to scare people. The bully wants to terrorize people. The bully wants to create fear and anxiety. --- 10/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Treacherous goals of the bully. Why the bully wants you to be like them. The bully wants people to adopt their twisted philosophy. The bully wants to be able to say, "See, you do it too." The bully attempts to legitimize his behavior. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) Relationship bullies. Dating bullies. Marriage bullies. (2) Family bullies. Parental bullies. (3) Corporate bullies (monopoly corporations). (4) Military bullies (plundering armies). (5) Religious bullies (intolerant churches). (6) Government bullies (dictatorship governments). --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) Secret terror groups and activities. Operate secretly. Vs. (2) Public terror groups and activities. Operate publicly. --- 11/29/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) Silent, secret bullies. Mean, hateful, cold, ruthless, seething. Hidden agendas. (2) Loud, obnoxious bullies. In your face. (3) Sniping bullies. Indirect. Sneak attacks on your flanks. --- 10/7/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) The bully who beats up people to avoid feeling insignificant. (2) The bully with an agenda to push. The bully with a program. --- 1/15/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) The unemotional bully. Cold and calculating. (2) The emotional bully. Angry outbursts. --- 1/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. (1) Urban bully. Gang bully. (2) Rural bully. Small town bully. --- 4/4/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. A "terrorist" is a type of a bully. A "spy" is a type of a bully. A "hacker/cracker" is a type of a bully. --- 12/19/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Cyber bully. Internet bullying often takes the form of automated harassment or robotic harassment. For example, a program that detects when a person is online and then sends the person a harassing email. In the computer age the bullies are automating the work of bullying. --- 6/8/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Cyber bully. The cyber bully will use the Internet to harass, threaten, intimidate and attack their targets. --- 3/7/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Cybergangs. Bullies in cyberspace. The bully who uses the Internet as a means of bullying. The Internet bully tries to scare people off the Internet. --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Economic bully: monopolist. --- 4/8/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Efficiency and productivity bullies. Want to treat the worker like a machine. Want to dehumanize the worker. Makes the worker feel worthless if they don't produce up to quota. Views efficiency and productivity as the sole value. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Neighborhood bully, thinks he owns the neighborhood. --- 3/7/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Neighborhood bully: thinks he owns the neighborhood and everyone in it. --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Political bully: dictator. --- 4/8/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Relationship bully. The psychologically, verbally or physically abusive boyfriend or girlfriend. --- 4/7/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Religious bullies say "Its my intolerant way or the highway". Orthodox. Fundamentalism. They think they are right, and you are wrong. They think they are better, and you are worse. They think they are true and you are false. They think they are going to heaven, and you are going to hell. They use violence and terror against perceived infidels, heretics and blasphemers. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The boyfriend who subjugates his girlfriend. The husband who subjugates his wife. Who does so by force or threat. Or who does so by trying to coerce the wife or girlfriend that its the right thing to do. --- 11/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The bully who likes to pick on anyone different than themselves. Different physically. Different beliefs. Different practices. The bully who says, "I'm superior to you, and you are inferior. I'm right and you are wrong." Intolerance of diversity. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The bully who likes to pick on minorities. The bully who likes to pick on the weak. The bully who likes to pick on the physically handicapped or mentally handicapped. The bully who likes to pick on the young (example, high school bullies). The bully who likes to pick on the small. The bully who likes to pick on the peaceful. --- 10/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The cyber-bully and the physical-bully; they want to scare the hell out of you in the virtual world and the real world. --- 5/14/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The hyper-competitive bully, who feels a need to beat other people and dominate other people in every situation. Uses competition as an excuse to harass the weak. (2) Bullies in the name of efficiency and productivity. (3) Eugenics, bigotry and discrimination. --- 12/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The paternalistic bully mistakenly thinks he knows what's best for you. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. The tyrannical father. --- 11/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. There is a certain type of bully who likes to maintain a bourgeoisie respectability to try to lord it over others. They want to appear prim and proper models of propriety. For this bully, surface looks and appearances are more important than their rotted core. --- 10/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Three types of bullying. Secret bullying: you don't know who is bullying you. Private bullying: less apparent to the public. Public bullying: public violence, threat, humiliation, intended to coerce others as much as the target. --- 10/4/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Types of power abusers. (1) The physical strength bully: feels that if they are stronger than you then they have a right to push you around. (2) The beauty bully: feels that if they are better looking than you then they are superior to you and can treat you badly. (3) The popularity bully: feels that popularity gives them an excuse to pick on others. (4) The intellectual bully: feels that intelligence gives them an excuse to boss others. (5) The technology bully: uses technology to oppress others. --- 11/16/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Types of bullies. Workplace bully. Relationship bully. Family bully. Neighborhood bully. Internet bully. --- 4/7/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully include humiliation and degradation. --- 5/5/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. "If we beat up half the people then the other half will get PTSD just from watching". --- 11/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. (1) Dispassioned pseudo-reason approach. (2) Emotional approaches. (A) Negative emotions. For going against the group. For opposing the group. Feel banished. Feel ostracism. Feel anger towards you. Feel disappointment in you. Feel humiliation. (B) Positive emotions. For obeying the group. For supporting the group. Feel friendliness toward you. Feel safe. Feel support. --- 10/4/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. (1) Insults and malicious mocking, private and public, to your face and behind your back. (2) Harassment. (3) Threats and intimidation, veiled or direct. (4) Gossip, half truths and lies. (5) Invasion of privacy, spying, secretly vs. letting you know it. --- 9/16/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. (1) Isolation. Isolate the target. Or at least try to make the target feel isolated. (2) Gang up on the target. Make the target feel they are surrounded by enemies and under attack. (3) Intimidate the target into inactivity. Make the target feel any move they make will be wrong. --- 12/13/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. (1) The bully tries to claim its natural, and therefore good. (2) The bully tries to claim its harmless. (3) The bully tries to claim that he just don't care. --- 10/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Bullies are people who try to unremittingly abuse and batter people to the point where people believe that anything they do is wrong, anything they say is wrong and anything they think is wrong, so they merely believe and obey the bully." --- 11/12/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Bullies like to join together to make a band of bullies. --- 10/9/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Bullies often threaten, "We are going to beat you up if you say anything about us." That is how bullies attempt to control thought and speech through threats and violence. --- 1/9/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Bully often says, "You better not say anything. You better not tell." --- 10/10/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Control the media. Promote your own views through threat, intimidation and harassment. Get rid of opposing views through threat, intimidation and harassment. Use every channel of the media: Internet, print, broadcasting. --- 11/15/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Create the illusion of freedom to mollify the masses. The bully wants to pick a ripe, fat system. The bully doesn't want to destroy the system, only abuse it. (2) Use propaganda and lies to create the illusion of freedom and safety while you conduct a secret campaign of terror and intimidation. (3) Peace time propaganda: Say, "All is well.", while you secretly and quietly oppress and exploit others. War-time propaganda: Demonize the enemy and then use that to justify any action. (4) Assuage guilt. Try to convince yourself and others that you are doing justice and that god is on your side. (5) You need a cover, a front, a flak. --- 11/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Cruelty, brutality, violence and abuse; the bully wrongly believes these to be good or inevitable. --- 10/12/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Dirty tricks. Breaking and entering. Burglary. Destruction of property. Assault. --- 12/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Distractions. (1) "But look what that other person did.", attempts to distract people by trying to divert attention to others. (2) "But look at the good I have done", attempts to distract by diverting attention to some token acts of good. --- 11/8/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Failing to achieve power, the next tactic of the bully is to try to maintain the appearance of power. Prevented from hitting people, the next tactic of the bully is to try to scare people. --- 10/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Five levels of secrecy when people do bad things. (1) Anonymously. (2) Hinting to you alone. (3) Telling you but you cannot prove it. (4) Hinting to the public. (5) Telling the public but so the public cannot prove it. --- 12/24/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. For the terrorist the keyword is harassment. The terrorist tries to bother their target a little each day. The terrorist tries to make their target uncertain and scared. You have to say to the terrorist, "bug off". The bully is a type of terrorist. --- 9/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Friendly by day, terror by night. --- 10/9/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Harass, nitpick, henpeck. Ostracize, exclude, alienate. --- 10/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Harassment. Harassment by a series of attacks. Harassment by a series of threats. Harassment by a series of dirty tricks or "practical jokes". Harassment by a series of verbal abuses or maliciously mocking jokes. Harassment by a series of psychological abuses. --- 12/24/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Harassment. Harassment is like being beaten up in slow motion. Or its like death by a thousand cuts. --- 12/24/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Hazing. After the recent LI varsity football hazing incident. Hazing is very often a form of bullying. Hazing is very often abuse. Hazing is very often unethical. Hazing has no constructive purpose. Hazing is arbitrary terror. Hazing "to see how tough you are" is baloney. Hazing involves asking a person to display trust in a group that subsequently betrays the person. --- 11/16/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Ironically, the bully says "actions speak louder than words", yet the bully's first course of action is to try to control the media and get rid of writers of opposition views. Is that because "the pen is mightier than the sword"? --- 9/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Isolate individuals by silencing them. Silence them by fear. --- 11/23/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Lame reasons bully gives for his behavior. "Unfortunately, its necessary, because there is no other way." --- 2/18/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious mocking. Malicious mocking is a form of verbal abuse intended to humiliate and denigrate the target. --- 12/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious mocking. Name calling. Labeling. Stigmatizing. For example, calling someone crazy, gay, etc. --- 12/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious mocking. The put down. The bully wants to put you down in order to raise his low self esteem. The bully uses racist jokes. Ethnic jokes. Sexist jokes. --- 12/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious mocking. They mock out of a need to feel superior. If they were actually superior they wouldn't need to mock. If they were actually superior they wouldn't need to play dirty. But they are not superior. --- 9/19/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious mocking. Types of malicious mocking. (1) Publicly, overtly, with others and you knowing it. (2) Publicly, only hinting to you. (3) Publicly, yet without the target knowing it. For example, behind your back. (4) Privately, hinting only to you. (5) Privately, overtly to you. --- 12/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Malicious practical jokes. Sex related practical jokes. Scat related practical jokes. --- 1/18/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Might makes right (the bully wants his way no matter what the cost). Fright makes right (the bully wants to threaten and scare you to death). Slight makes right (the bully wants to slight you, the bully wants to put you down). --- 12/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Name calling, a type of verbal abuse used by bullies. These are some names used by bullies to devalue, stigmatize and disempower: Fatty. Four eyes. Skin and bones. Half breed. Mutt. Shorty. Ugly. Spastic. Stupid. Freak. Weirdo. Strange. Etc. --- 1/3/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. One tactic of the bully is to pound on the weak, the vulnerable and the sensitive. The bully is out to destroy people. The bully actually thinks its a good idea to kill the weak. By "weak" the bully means anyone weaker than him. This attitude helps explain the bully's obsession with power, strength, dominance, winning, competing, fighting and conflict. --- 1/21/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. For a bully, "practical jokes" often segway into "dirty tricks". --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. Bullies use malicious practical jokes. Practical jokes are supposed to be harmless (physically and psychologically). However, bullies use the practical joke as a tool of humiliation, harassment and terror. Bullies use the practical joke as a means of threat, control and terror. PART TWO. Practical joking is a typical tactic of bullies. Practical joking is about lack of empathy. Practical joking is about abuse of power. Practical joking is about venting anger on innocents. Practical joking is not humor. --- 10/16/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. Harmless vs. harmful practical jokes. Harmful practical jokes attempt to embarrass, humiliate, degrade and terrorize the target. They try to avoid the illegal but often fail. --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. Not anger. Not sadism. But a calculated power grab. An attempt to elevate themselves by degrading others. Shows a lack of ethical development. --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. They will prank you. They will threaten to prank you. They will lie and say they pranked you when they actually did not. --- 10/14/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. Two "practical jokes" that bullies use to terrorize people. Food tampering: putting shit in your food. Sleep tampering: messing with you while you sleep. Or lying about doing so. Or threatening to do so. The bully wants to keep you tired, hungry and worried. The bully wants to exhaust you. The bully wants to wear you out. --- 11/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical jokes. Use of malicious "practical jokes" as a means of control and terror. To silence critics. To intimidate people. --- 11/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Practical joking. Things bullies say when practical joking. "Its just a joke. Its all in fun. We're just messing with you." Bullies like to harass and terrorize without breaking the law. --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Propaganda is crucial for a bully regime. The "big lie" tries to convince the public of the regimes goodwill or harmlessness. Charm and violence are the traits of sociopaths. --- 10/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Public terror vs. secret terror vs. anonymous terror. Public terror means letting everyone see you going after your target. Secret terror means letting only your target see you are after them. Anonymous terror means not even letting your target know its you who is harassing them. --- 11/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Shady tactics of those pushing ideological agendas. (1) When pseudo-reason and logical fallacies don't work, try emotional appeals. And visa versa. (2) When soft sell doesn't work, try the hard sell. (3) Negative emotional appeals. Negative emotional appeals try to depress you and make you feel worthless and hopeless. They try to scare you, frighten you and make you feel anxious. They try to anger you until you are incapacitated by anger. (4) Positive emotional appeals. (A) Pride appeals. Make us proud. National pride appeals. Be your best friend appeals. Think of the fun we will have. (B) Joining appeals. Join the in-crowd. Join the team. Hop on the band wagon. (C) Safety and security appeals. You can't live without us. (D) These are appeals to basic psychological needs and wants. (5) When one appeal tactic doesn't work on a person, they try a different appeal tactic. They start with emotional appeals and slogans because they don't want people to think too much. --- 12/26/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Spectrum of bullying tactics. Annoy. Harass (repeated annoyances). Terrorize (fear inducing). --- 11/30/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Terrorize innocent bystanders. Secretly exploit and victimize. Abuse their power. Unethical, if not illegal. --- 10/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bullies says, "Go ahead and live your life. You are free. But if you criticize us or talk negatively about us we will beat you up or threaten to beat you up." --- 1/26/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully attempts to harass you at the level of the basic needs of food, sleep and sex. For example, putting shit or scum in your food. For example, trying to scare you from sleeping. For example, invading the privacy of your sex life. The bully tries to mess with your basic needs. --- 6/10/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully is trying to shut people up by intimidation and degradation, or threat of same. The bully is trying to maintain his power base by abusing others. The bully is trying to promote his own views by viciously quashing the opposition. --- 5/16/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully says, "I don't care what I have to do to anyone to get my way. I will do anything to win. I have to be number one. Win at any cost even if it means playing dirty." --- 10/25/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully says, "We are going to provide for you. We are going to guide and teach you. We are going to provide friendship. We ask, or demand, or coerce your unquestioning loyalty, blind obedience, time, energy, money, etc". --- 10/12/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully tries to claim he is harmless. The bully says humiliating people with practical jokes is harmless. The bully says terrorizing people with threats is harmless. The bully says bilking the public is harmless. The bully is wrong. --- 10/5/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully wants to terrorize people into keeping mouths shut, eyes closed, ears covered. Deaf, dumb and blind. "See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil" monkeys. But the bully wants to know all about you. --- 9/25/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. The bully's tactics are physical, verbal and psychological abuse. The bully wants to assault you physically, verbally and psychologically. The rest of the world believes in fairness and reason. The bully believes in abuse of power. --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. They may treat you well at first. They will ask you for one small lapse in ethics on your part. They then coordinate the many small lapses in ethics by many people. They try to get everyone to give one punch. They try to give people plausible deniability, so that each individual can say, "I didn't know". --- 10/12/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. They play dumb when they say, "We just like to play rough." --- 10/8/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. They will call you every name in the book. They will lie about you. They will gossip about you. They will harass you. They will threaten you. They will abuse you. --- 10/14/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Things bullies say: "Don't ask any questions". --- 11/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Those who abuse their power want to curtail free speech by others. The Internet is a major form of free speech today. Who would like to curtail the Internet as a medium of free speech? The bully. Who would like to see free speech and the Internet continue? Those who use power wisely. --- 11/27/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threat is a form of terror. Types of threats include the vague threat, the anonymous threat and the implied threat. The bully realizes that he only has to brutalize a few in order to threaten many. --- 12/24/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. Crazed sounding, persistent, "I know who you are and where you live", types of threats are sleazy. --- 10/1/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. The bully loves to scare the daylights out of people. The tools that the bully uses to scare people are the threat and the practical joke. The bully enjoys scaring people for various reasons. (1) Scaring people poses less physical and legal risk to the bully. (2) Scaring people generates less guilt in the bully. (3) The bully mistakenly believes that scaring people is harmless. Scaring people is not harmless, as current psychology shows. Scaring people can cause PTSD and permanent emotional scars and physical repercussions. --- 12/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. Types of threats. (1) The crazy threat: tries to make you say, "Hey, that person is crazy." (2) The angry threat: tries to make you say, "Hey, that person is angry." (3) The threat carried out half-way. This tactic is used by the bully to really scare people. --- 12/28/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. Types of threats. The vague threat. The anonymous threat. The implied threat. Any combination of the three. --- 11/6/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. Vague threat letters. "You don't know us, but we know all about you. We know who you are, we know where you live, you are going to die, etc." --- 10/7/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Threats. Vague, anonymous threats. --- 10/12/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Two pairs of variables. Public vs. secret terror. Random vs. directed terror. Four combinations possible. --- 12/2/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Verbal abuse. Name calling, either in anger or in jest. Racial slurs. Ethnic slurs. Sexual slurs. Slurs against physical or psychological limitations, etc. --- 12/20/2003
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Violence. The bully enjoys beating people up. He thinks its right and good. He thinks its his job. --- 1/28/2004
Psychology, pathological, specific, bullying. --- Unethical tactics of the bully. Wannabe bullies often band together because alone they can't do as much, but as a group they can team up on their lone individual targets. --- 10/2/2003