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Sociology, conflict.  ---  .This section is about conflict.  Topics include:  ( ) Ethics.  ( ) Techniques.  ( ) Types.  ( ) War.  ---  1/24/2006

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) Psychological aspects of struggling.  Psych up: motivation, determination.  Vs.  Psych out.  (2) Physical aspects: strength, power, endurance, reserves.  Energy: food, sleep, effort.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) Sociology as conflict.  (2) Sociology as contest.  Who wins and who loses in a social situation.  ---  6/15/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) Struggling for wrong things is wrong, and struggling for right things is right.  (2) Not struggling for wrong things is right, and not struggling for right things is wrong.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) The warrior studies conflict tactics.  Prepares himself physically and mentally for war.  The Zen samuri.  Bushido (code of samuri).  Who or what is my opponent?  Others, nature, or myself?  Less wasting time, etc.  (2) Often though, the best way to conquer is to seduce or persuade.  Example: getting them to like you, or agree with you.  That is because it does not cause me to go against my principles to do so.  Another, less ethical, tactic is to kiss ass to survive.  (3) Mental preparation of the warrior.  Tough, enduring, focus, fearless, calm, well prepared.  (4) Getting what you want, getting your way, by any means.  Fighting fair or dirty, rough or nice.  ---  12/01/1993

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) What determines if we are fighting?  Its always a struggle.  Little struggles with allies.  Big struggles with enemies.  (2) What are we fighting about?  What is the subject matter of the conflict?  What is my view?  What is the opposition's view?  (3) What determines who wins and who loses?  (4) What determines when the fight is over?  The fight is never over.  (5) What are the rules of the fight?  Deciding how you will fight.  Deciding what you will and will not do.  Even if the other side fights dirty.  (6) The big problem is that often people cannot agree on any of the above.  ---  11/24/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  (1) What.  All relationships = struggling.  All existence = struggle.  Unconscious vs. conscious.  Mild vs. severe.  (2) Why: it is natural.  (3) How: healthiest ways.  Ethical vs. effective.  Get most goal with least effort.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Acknowledging: starting fights vs. finishing fights.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Adversity, opposition, oppression, exploitation.  Fight it with knowledge and bravery.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Allies are tenuous and changing.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Allies vs. neutrals vs. enemies.  Participants vs. noncombatants.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Battle.  Person x: gains and losses.  Person y: gains and losses.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Battles.  Chosen vs. received.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Boxing metaphor for struggling.  Boxing has many factors to it, including:  (1) Speed: if you can react faster than your opponent then you have an advantage.  (2) Power: if you can hit harder than your opponent then you have an advantage.  (3) Armor: if your hide is tougher than your opponent's punches then you have an advantage.  (4) Will to fight: if your will to fight is greater than you opponent's then you have an advantage.  (5) Smarts: if you knowledge of tactics is greater than your opponent's then you have an advantage.  ---  12/23/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Computers.  Flame is a sociological phenomenon.  Vituperation.  Gossip.  Slander and libel.  Ad hominem attacks.  ---  3/9/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Conflict resolution techniques.  Dispute resolution techniques.  Any use of conflict de-escalation is a use of peace.  ---  1/1/2006

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Conflict theory.  People will walk all over you, and take advantage of you, and try to destroy you, for kicks, if you give them the chance.  I am engaged in a battle.  At stake is my psyche and my self autonomy.  I am going to fight you.  ---  03/06/1989

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Conflict theory.  You need an opponent who is your equal in order to bring out the best or most in you.  A worthy opponent.  ---  06/10/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Conflict.  PART ONE.  Types of conflict.  (1)  Physical conflict.  (A) Pushing and shoving.  (B) Hitting.  (C) Weapons.  (2) Verbal conflict.  (A) Shouting matches.  (B) Cursing matches.  (C) Ad hominem attacks.  (3) Psychological conflict.     PART TWO.  Tactics of psychological conflict.  Make them think you are stronger than them.  Make them think you are right.  Sow fear, uncertainty and doubt.  Attack their assumptions and conclusions.  Distract them.  Feint.  Surprise them.  Fake them out.     PART THREE.   Tactics of cooperation.  Make them think you like them.  Make them think you are one of them.  Make them think you share same goals.  Do them a favor.  Smile.  Be nice.  Have a contract.  Don't be a pushover.  Have good boundaries.  Know what is non-negotiable.  Spot scams.  Respect them as much as you respect anyone else.  ---  5/31/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Dealing with assholes.  (1) As you become more socially attuned and skillful in conflict, dealing with assholes becomes easier.  (2) As you understand assholes better (causes, behavior), they bother you less.  You see how pathetic they are, and you know how to deal with them.  ---  06/17/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Do not let the opposition, no matter how many they are, no matter how powerful they are, no matter how unjust they are, no matter how much of a threat they are, no matter what setbacks or losses occur, do not let the opposition degrade your ability to struggle for justice against all their crappy ways.  ---  11/23/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Elements of a struggle.  (1) Major, minor.  (2) Opponents: number and types.  (3) Opposition: types and amounts.  (4) Arena, battleground, terrain, environment, subject area.  (5) Means: form of their attack (strategies, tactics, and reasons for them).  (6) Ends: what their fighting over, and reasons for.  (7) The stakes: what happens if each wins?  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Elements.  (1) Planning and preparation.  (2) Positioning.  (3) Timing: acting too late vs. acting too soon.  Before your ready to attack, before their ready to be attacked.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Elements.  Resources: time, energy, money, materials.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics of conflict.  (1) Fighting fair even when the opposition does not fight fair.  (2) Doctrine of equal opposition.  Like the punishment fitting the crime.  (3) Doctrine of explaining why you are fighting (punishing) and explaining how the opposition can change their behavior for you to stop the fight (punishment).  ---  11/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics.  (1) You and opponents.  (2) Subject area, issue/question/problem, view, argument, evidence.  (3) Goals: freedom, peace, knowledge, status, prestige, respect, power, sex, economic (money and stuff).  (4) Goals, strategies, tactics, and reasons: yours and theirs.  Goals and objectives: what fighting for.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics.  Hard sell: force.  Soft sell: seduce.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics.  Playing (struggling) by the rules.  The fair fight vs. dirty pool.  Rules of engagement.  The just war.  ---  9/7/1999

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics.  Stay in fighting shape, physically and psychologically.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ethics.  Struggling vs. nonstruggling.  Means vs. ends.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Fight type, duration, frequency, intensity.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Fight who, when, where, why, how, how hard.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Fights classified by time, environment, rules, medium.  (1) Physical (action).  To him, to his weapons, to his other stuff.  Hand to hand, guns or knives.  (2) Verbal (communication).  To him, to his allies, to others in environment.  Harass, bitch.  (3) Ideological (ideas).  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  First thing, determine immediately whether you are dealing with an uptight square asshole (traditional, hierarchical, conservative), or someone who is cool, liberal, democratic, egalitarian.  If you can't tell, try to get them to reveal it.  If they won't, or if they lie or spy, then to be safe treat them like a square.  These are two different personality types, it is not just politics.  How is each formed?  What is the mechanism of action for each?  ---  05/30/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  (1) The problem with a view of life as a struggle.  The problem with a view of life as conflict.  The problem with conservatism, capitalism, etc., is that they lead to social relationships where one person feels they have to destroy, or beat, or humiliate, or overpower, or dominate the other person.  The tactics used to do so include ostracism, bullying, discrimination, etc.  (2) When the "winning is everything" attitude of sports becomes an attitude held about life in general it leads one group to want to dominate another group.  It can lead to discrimination, exploitation, oppression, etc.  ---  4/17/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  Be ready to fight always.  Be ready to fight anyone or anything, anytime, anywhere.  Know how to fight and be willing to fight.  The same goes for love.  Know when and why to do either (love or fight).  ---  9/26/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  It is necessary to fight if you want to survive.  Fight for self-defense, and for protection.  Fight so that you don't let others abuse you and adversely affect you mental health.  Fight for justice, justice for yourself and for others.  Fight so assholes don't continue abusing other people.  Fight others to maintain your sense of self-respect and self-worth.  ---  05/18/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  People think "All is fair in love and war".  They also think "Those who are not my friends (and I love my friends) are my enemies (and I am at war with my enemies).  Thus they conclude "the rules are there are no rules".  That is how the world got so screwed up.  ---  9/26/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  The big questions.  (1) What will you struggle against and not and why.  (2) What will you struggle for and not and why.  (3) What tactics will and won't you use and why.  (4) It is an ethical question.  See - support, permit, condone, neutral, discourage, prohibit.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  There is a lot of anger out there, and a lot of people not conscious of it and its cause and how to deal with it.  They are repressed and ignorant of psychology and psychological therapy.  So there ends up the injustice of much intense misplaced anger.  Beware!  Don't get caught as a scapegoat for misplaced anger, whether you did something wrong or not.  ---  10/23/1993

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  Two wrong views people often hold.  (1) When encountering another individual, people make a conscious or unconscious decision, based on any criteria, that "this person is on my side" vs. "this person is on the other side".  Any loss to the "other side" is a gain for "our side".  If a person views you as on the other side, then they will want to see you fail, suffer, and die.  (2) "Any step down for anyone else is a step up for me".  They want to see you fail, suffer and die regardless of whose side you are on.  ---  10/20/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  General thoughts on conflict.  View of life as a struggle leads to view of life as war (extreme competition or conflict).  This is how the hierarchical conservatives see it.  "You're in the army now".  Blind obedience.  Survival neurosis.  ---  06/17/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Get used to being attacked from all sides (right and left) by seen and unseen foes.  Also, be prepared for quick changes from friend to foe, and from foe to friend.  ---  01/07/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  How peaceful your life is.  (1) Inner struggles (psychological tension and stress).  (2) Outer struggles: nature and social.  Ones you pick: intentionally or unintentionally vs. ones others give you: intentionally or unintentionally.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Ideal.  Is the ideal absence of struggle, or is the ideal struggling perfectly?  Perfect struggle = effective or just?  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Importance (relative) of a fight.  Affects of outcome: wins vs. losses.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  In any situation you are in, (1) The amount, type, and degree of opposition you are faced with, and (2) How to deal with them.  (A) Kiss up to them (no).  (B) Fight them secretly.  Don't let them know you are acting against them.  (C) Outright fighting.  Let them know you are fighting them.  ---  09/10/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Is it possible to defend self without attacking others?  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Just war.  (1) Some fights are ethically justified, others are not.  (2) Sometimes killing is justified, other times not.  ---  11/25/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Means and ends.  Means = technology: tools and techniques.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Never give in to the enemy spiritually or mentally.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Non-violent (peaceful) resistance.  Ghandi.  Martin Luther King.  ---  04/24/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Not all conflicts are zero-sum games.  Not all conflicts are "life or death" situations.  Not all conflicts are "overpower or be enslaved" situations.  ---  11/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  One cannot and should not always avoid confrontation and conflict.  One cannot always avoid a fight.  One cannot always avoid a loss.  Sometimes you have to stand up and fight for what you think is right, even when you don't win, even when justice does not prevail, and even when you suffer humiliation, pain and loss for it.  ---  3/31/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opponents, types of.  (1) Person.  (A) Self/me.  Sub-optimal and pathological.  Psychological, physical, behavior, my life.  (B) Others: individuals or groups.  (2) Natural objects: weather, land.  (3) Manmade objects: pollution.  (4) Natural forces or conditions.  Time, age.  Death, loss, decay.  Luck/fate/destiny/misfortune.  Necessities.  Money, work, stupidity, lies.  Crap and mediocrity.  Limits: physical, psychological, social, nature.  Problems, mistakes.  (5) Situations: combos of above.  (6) Ideas.  (7) Life.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  (1) Natural fights: weather, food, pests, etc.  (2) Social fights: here.  (3) Individual fights: emotions, motivation, memory, learning, etc.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  Are they against you for what you believe, or what they think you believe.  Correct their wrong impressions of you.  Get your message out (public relations).  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  Being attacked, fairly or unfairly, by weaker or by stronger.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  Beware those who hurt you and then are nice to you, over and over.  Avoid them like plague.  Beware those who befriend in order to betray.  Trust no one.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  Biggest opponent is your lesser self.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Opposition.  Objective obstacles vs. subjective obstacles.  Mind, body, energy, attitudes (emotion and knowledge).  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Peace vs. violence.  (1) Violence as a means to get goals.  Forms of violence.  Ethics of violence.  (2) Peaceful methods.  Non-violence.  ---  5/30/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Peace vs. violence.  The lure of violence.  (1) As catharsis for anger (twisted into hatred and aggression) caused by one thing, but taken out on another innocent.  (2) As catharsis for sexual tensions.  Sadists.  (3) As catharsis for destructive urges (thanatos), and for anarchic urges (freedom).  ---  01/22/1989

Sociology, conflict.  ---  People can use true information against you.  Directly to blackmail you, or indirectly by telling others.  In order to keep you out of office, or to put someone else in.  To advance their philosophy, views, causes, interests, and to hinder yours.  And people can also lie about you.  ---  11/27/1993

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Persistence is key.  Giving up too soon is a big mistake.  ---  9/28/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Playing fair vs. playing dirty.  Fighting fair vs. fighting dirty.    The big question is what are the rules of engagement.  What is fair and not.  Inevitably you and your opponent may have differing views on this.  ---  9/19/2003

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Problems.  Conflict as a problem.  Causes and methods of settling or resolving.  Problems of fighting best.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Psychological: before fight, during fight, after effects.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Psychology of conflict, competition and cooperation.  (1) Psychology of conflict.  (A) Will to fight if have to.  (B) Will to keep fighting in a losing battle.  (C) Knowledge of ways how to fight and when to fight.  (2) Psychology of competition.  (A) Will to compete if have to.  (B) Will to keep competing in a losing contest.  (C) Knowledge of ways how to compete and when to compete.  (3) Psychology of cooperation.  (A) Will to cooperate if have to.  (B) Will to keep cooperating in a losing deal.  (C) Knowledge of ways how to cooperate and when to cooperate.  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Psychology.  Bravery vs. cowardice (fag, wimp).  Causes of each.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Some genetic traits that we evolved in the past, that were useful in the past, are perhaps not useful today.  For example, in a primitive society that wages many wars, perhaps only the war-like individuals survive (i.e., those who enjoy war and those who are good at war), and it becomes a prevalent trait in the population, and perhaps it even becomes a hard-wired trait in brains.  However, today war is less necessary and yet we still have people wired for war.  The point is, just because we have these traits does not make these traits good.  ---  11/25/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Some people want to see you go nowhere, do nothing, or screw up miserably, so it will confirm their suspicions of your inferiority and their superiority (as a person, and of the ideology they adheres to).  Do not give them that pleasure.  Fight them.  ---  10/01/1993

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Sources of war, violence and murder.  (1) Politics.  People ordered to commit violence by a government that rules by terror, intimidation, coercion, etc.  (For example, Stalinist Russia, Nazi Germany, Rwanda in 90's.)  People with no freedom forced to act against their will.  (2) Emotion.  Hatred of another group.  Anger.  Fear.  Revenge.  (3) Media.  People persuaded to violence by propaganda.  Use of the media to spread lies.  (4) Ideology.  People who believe they are justified in committing violence.  They feel they have good reasons.  They adhere to an ideology.  A belief, a thought, an idea or a rational argument motivates them, even if it is false.  For example, they may believe their enemy is subhuman and should be exterminated.  (5) Economic concerns.  Desire for scarce resources.  Desire for land, money and food for survival.  (6) Political.  Desire of a state for political power and dominance.  (A) Leaders telling their obedient followers to pursue aggression.  (B) Grass roots violent revolutions despite what leaders say.  (7) Religion.  Religious wars.  Blind obedience to religious beliefs.  (8) Moral grounds.  For example, the USA against Hitler in WWII.  (9) Attitude of escalation.  (10) Lack of conflict resolution skills.  No diplomats in place.  (11)  An uncontrolled technological arms race.  (12) An uncontrolled military whose job it is to make war, and who wants desperately to do their job.  (13)  Hypersensitive, hyperdefensive people.  ---  6/1/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Stakes.  (1) Health: psychological, physical, financial/economic.  (2) Justice, catharsis.  (3) Sub-optimal and pathological vs. optimal and ideal, me and my life.  (4) Goals: by area, by time frame, do, experience, get, learn.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Stakes.  Struggling over (1) Environment type desired.  (2) Use of shared resources. (3) Doing things.  (4) Dominance.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Strengths vs. weaknesses.  Actual, perceived, apparent.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Struggling.  Being dissed.  Conscious vs. unconscious of it.  Frequency, degree of it, from how many.  To face vs. behind back.  Some feel it more than others.  How much they take vs. fight back (fully).  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Taking down people is now sport in america.  Anyone can accuse anyone of anything (rightly or wrongly), strictly for thrills, kicks, smiles.  ---  03/23/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  (1) Improve: plans, tools, techniques.  (2) Dig in vs. move, maneuver, position.  (3) Negotiate, diplomacy.  (4) Go all out at once vs. save some till later.  (5) Prisoners: interrogate, enslave, torture.  (6) Trap them, vs. drive them out, expose them.  (7) False submission or self deprecation vs. bragging.  (8) Diversions, distractions, fakes, fool.  (9) Surprise, ambush, secret weapons.  (10) Lies, secrets.  (11) Single front vs. multiple front.  (12) Leaders, recruits, followers, public.  (13) No mans land, sanctuary, neutral zone.  (14) Terror, psychological war.  (15) Outlast them.  (16) Harass, cheat.  (17) Adaptability, flexibility, agility.  (18) Hide vs. display.  (19) Resupply, repsych, rephys.  (20) Bombardment.  (21) Outnumber.  (22) Armor, defense.  (23) Diplomacy, negotiation.  (24) Trapping and blocking.  (25) Weapons: acquire, develop, prepare, posses, use.  (26) Knock them out of contention vs. totally destroy them.  (27) Block them: actively or passively.  (28) Make them look bad.  (29) Psychological warfare: destroy their desire and will to fight.  (30) Sabotage them.  (31) Charm them.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  (1) Propaganda: selling your side, putting opposition down.  (2) Espionage and counter-espionage.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  (1) Speed: too fast, too slow.  (2) Timing: too soon, too late.  (3) Amounts: too little, too much.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Always stay aware it is a battle, always keep fighting.  Always stay on guard, don't fag out, don't forget.  Don't act or be weak: physically, mentally or in character.  Go all out in everything you do.  Look ahead.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Attack vs. retreat.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Attack.  (1) Sneak, surprise, secrecy, ambush.  (2) Warned, threat, overt.  (3) Guerrilla, harass.  (4) Orthodox, siege, frontal, flank, rear.  (5) Single, double, envelopment.  (6) Penetration.  (7) Counterattack.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Be a good counter-puncher, payback is a bitch.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Best strategy.  Be well rested, be well fueled.  Be well psyched, be up for the fight.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Calm, relaxed, physically and mentally, yet motivated and focused, yields optimum psychological and physical performance.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Intelligence gathering.  Spies, scouts, reconnaissance, observation, interrogation, shots across the bow.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Methods/procedures: when use, how use best, why use, how you going to fight.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Offense: sneak attack.  Defense: anonymity.  ---  9/26/1998

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Spy, intelligence, logistics.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Strategies and tactics list.  (1) Attack vs. retreat.  Offense vs. defense.  (2) Seduce vs. destroy.  (A) Overpower, outwit, out last, surprise, bluff.  Block, wear down, or destroy physical and psychological abilities, psychological will.  (3) Form of his attack and defense. (4) Weapons: tools and techniques used.  Brain.  Behavior/work/effort.  Stuff, resources (money, energy, time).  Skills.  (5) Physical: fists, holds, sticks and stones, knives, guns.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Strategies: when, where, how, why to use each.  (1) Deceive, deception.  (2) Planning and physical and mental preparation.  (3) Deployment: how much, where, how.  (4) Movement, maneuver: numbers, direction, speed.  (5) Campaign, position, timing, leadership.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Strategies.  Get what you want through other people by: (1) Seduction or destruction.  (2) Study and know opponent.  Capabilities: psychological, physical, financial/economic.  Allies and enemies.  Strengths and weaknesses.  Motives and goals, strategies and tactics, and reasons.  (3) Study and know self strengths and weaknesses.  (4) Prepare self physically and mentally.  (5) Study and know your relationship to opponent.  (6) Study and know environment: opportunities, risks.  (7) Personal factors: skill, smarts, strength, resolve, determination, motivation, will, actuation, health, character.  (8) Fight: harder, fairer, longer, smarter, stronger, faster, leaner, meaner.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Tactic: belittle them (see rhetorical tactics).  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Techniques.  Use your strengths on your opponents weaknesses.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Terms: struggles, problems, challenges, opportunities.  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Terms.  Intentions, capabilities, motive, opportunity, obstacles.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Terms.  Struggling, achieving, getting.  Conflict, combat, war.  Cooperation.  Fighting.  Seducing, persuade.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  The mains forms of struggling in the second half of the twentieth century.  (1) Cold war.  War of ideas.  Economic war.  (2) Guerrilla war and terrorism.  ---  3/11/2000

Sociology, conflict.  ---  The meaning of the phrase, "Know when to fight", can have several meanings.  (1) Know when you are justified in fighting.  Know in what cases to stick up for yourself.  (2) Pick your battles.  There are many battle you are justified in fighting, but you don't have time to fight them all, so choose wisely.  (3) Time your attacks carefully so as to optimize chances of success.  ---  7/11/2002

Sociology, conflict.  ---  They are out there, my age, learning and creating, the intellectual elite, philosophical and artistic.  I want to race them and beat them.  Out of intellectual pride.  I am better and greater.  ---  07/30/1993

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Total struggling complex.  All struggles: past, present, future.  Total current struggling complex: for current total situation.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of conflict.  (1) Intense battles (acute).  (2) Prolonged battles (chronic).  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of foes.  Natural foes (ex. natural disasters).  Social foes (ex. other people or society).  (3) Self foes (ex. your lesser selves).  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle, classified by (1) Intra-individual vs. inter-individual  (2) Intra-group vs. inter-group.  (3) Chosen vs. forced into.  (4) Aware of vs. unaware of.  (5) Giving opposition vs. receiving opposition.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle.  (1) Physical.  (2) Psychological  (3) Verbal (see rhetoric).  (A) Insinuation: implicit or hidden arguments.  (B) Mock (see humor, biting).  (C) Taunt.  (4) Ideological.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle.  (1) The legal battle.  (2) The political battle.  (3) The economic battle.  (4) The cultural battle.  ---  11/24/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle.  Increasing levels: friendly competition, unfriendly competition, respectful war, unrespectful war.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle.  Psychological warfare.  Rhetoric and debate.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types of struggle.  Terrain, situation, environment, area.  Work, leisure, like/lust, blood relatives, strangers, other, alone, social.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types.  (1) Battling self.  (A) Psychological.  Abilities.  Views.  Oppositional state: what type, how bad.  Ideal or goal states: what type, how far to go.  How to get from one to other.  How far you get.  Gains made, gains ungotten, losses.  (B) Behavior: most important.  (C) Physical.  (2) Battling others.  (3) Battling environment: nature, manmade.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types.  (1) Easy fights vs. tough fights.  (2) Nonstop fights vs. intermittent fights.  (3) Fights till death vs. peace treaties.  (4) Long fights vs. short fights.  (5) Repeating fights vs. endless fights vs. one time only fights.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Types.  Communication struggling: rhetoric, public relations, sales.  Rational and emotional.  Promote self and put down other guy.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  Vulnerability of X person, in Y situation, at Z time, to A weapon, used by B opponent.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War as a thrill and adrenaline rush.  Fighting as a thrill and adrenaline rush.  Conflict as a thrill and adrenaline rush.  Some people like conflict.  They seek conflict.  They think its fun.  For them conflict is a leisure pursuit.  Same for violence and crime.  Its a hobby for sadistic sociopaths.  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War is a very wasteful means of conflict resolution.  (1) Loss of time.  (2) Loss of materials used to make the weapons, and of stuff destroyed by weapons.  (3) Loss of money spent on weapons that are eventually destroyed.  (4) Human loss of life.  (5) Physical and psychological injury.  (6) Emotional pain of loved ones of soldiers and of civilians in war zones.  ---  04/24/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  (1) The feeling of being shot at by humans.  (2) The feeling of having to shoot other humans.  Neither is good.  ---  09/15/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  (1) Why the fascination with war?  It is a fascination with fighting, and death or mortality.  Metaphysically most curious subjects.  A way to experientially confront death.  Attacking and being attacked.  Killing and being killed.  How will you handle it, how will you hold up?  Let the women cooperate and give birth.  Bloodlust and violence.  Conquering and winning stuff, power, space or territory, women.  (2) WWII was considered a clean war, with an atrocious foe, and no nukes and no jets.  Big.  Nice setting.  ---  06/15/1994

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  Ethics of war.  Kill no civilians.  No chemical weapons.  No nuclear weapons.  No murder or torture of POWs.  No kill those who give up.  ---  12/30/1992

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  People are fascinated with war.  War as death.  War as a test.  War as killing.  War as combat and fighting.  Some even desire war.  They like war, fighting, killing, death.  People are strange.  ---  05/18/1997

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  The generals who start wars should be the ones who have to fight wars.  ---  4/20/2001

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  Various aspects of war.  (1) Economics of war.  Have more money than the opposition.  (2) Technology of war.  Have better technology than opposition.  (3) Propaganda, public relations, communications.  Have a better image in the public arena than opponent.  (4) Psychology of war.  Have better morale than opponent.  (5) Intelligence war.  Have more information than opponent.  (6) All of the above aspects can be used for peace instead of war.  (See: Sociology, cooperation).  ---  11/24/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  What we learned from Vietnam and the Gulf War.  Apparently, just like the way to get over an ex-girlfriend is to get a new girlfriend, the way to get over an old war (Vietnam) is to get a new war (Gulf War).  ---  4/25/2002

Sociology, conflict.  ---  War.  Why were wars fought originally, and even today?  (1) For money, wealth and assets.  (2) For power.  (3) For religious beliefs.  (4) For glory, fame, bragging rights, vanity, honor.  (5) As a competition.  As a bloodsport.  As a game.  (7) As a job.  (8) War is killing.  War is death.  Stop war as a bloodsport.  Stop war as a job.  Stop war as a game.  Stop religious wars.  Stop war.  ---  1/9/2004

Sociology, conflict.  ---  When doing something against anyone (against authorities or criminals, majorities or minorities), doing anything, good or bad, you have to ask yourself, how much is this going to raise my paranoia levels (degree, duration, and frequency), and is there another way to do it that will lower my paranoia level.  When fighting evil, try to do it silently, so they won't know you are after them (so they can't evade you), and so they won't know what hit them (so they won't know who to strike back at).  Of course, sometimes it is better to fight evil publicly, but usually only when you are in a group or have some protection or have some authority.  This note can be cross referenced in psychological pathological paranoia, and ethics of struggling/opposition (who to fight) vs. ethics of care (who to look out for).  ---  11/20/1993

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