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Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  .This section is about sexual development.  ---  1/24/2006


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  (1) Physical development.  (2) Psychological development.  Development of conceptions of love.  What is love and why is love important.  ---  4/20/2001


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  (1) Stages in relationships.  (2) Stages in psychological and physical development of individuals in relationship.  (3) Stages in situation the relationship takes place in.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  (1) Types of sexual development: (A) Sexual development in terms of development of knowledge and emotion regarding the subject of sexuality.  (B) Sexual development in terms of physical body development.  (C) Sexual development in terms of sexual experiences development.  (2) Sexual development of a person versus the general development of the entire person.  One's sexual knowledge, body, or experiences can either lag or lead the rest on one's knowledge, body, or experiences.  (3) Development of sexual fantasies versus development of sexual experiences.  (4) Societal enculturation and its affects on a person's sexual views and behavior.  (5) Amount of thought a person gives to their sex life versus the degree to which sex is an urge acted upon without thought.  ---  4/19/2005


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Age.  When you are young, you want and need sex and each other more.  When you are older, you want and need sex and each other much less.  Thus, can true love exist when one is older?  What do we mean by true love?  Love in all its dimensions?  Powerful love?  ---  11/30/1996


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Age.  Youth obsession in sex.  Youth is associated on the one hand with innocence and vulnerability.  In another way, youth is associated with vigor and power.  People also see youth as both health and beauty.  ---  02/07/1997


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Change of partners, perceptions, and relationship.  Speed, degree, for better or worse.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Change, development, stages, age.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Coming together vs. moving apart.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Cycle: (1) Interest (based on misconception).  (2) Disenchantment (based on revelation).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Dating.  What was once a new game, wondrous, exciting, and practiced just for fun, has turned into a quick, calculated, weeding out process on both sides.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Development of paternal or maternal feelings.  Desire to have kids.  Protective feelings toward mate.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Development of sexuality through life.  Physical, psychological, and social.  Healthy and pathological.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Early sex: more drive, more stupid, more experimenting, more mistakes, more desperate, more foolish, more frequent, more disgusting.  Later sex: less experimenting, more refined, less foolish.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Guys and gals, at any age.  What do they like to do and not?  How do they relate to opposite sex?  How do they relate to same sex?  What are their psychological, physical, and social characteristics?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  How sex changes for individual through time/age in terms of physical, psychology, and sociology.  Children viewed as sexless, aged viewed as sexless.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Lack of like/lust development in attitudes or experience.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Like/lust and time and age.  Sometimes by the time you've found someone you are compatible with intellectually, sexually, culturally, ethically, psychologically (interests, personality), sociologically (class), economically (money), and then have pursued, caught and gotten to know them, you've turned into someone else, and they have changed, and thus you both become incompatible.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Love cycle: interest, mystery, knowledge, disinterest.  Speed for two people.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Marriage, kids, divorce.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Phases.  (1) Strangers first meet.  (2) Friends.  (3) First time you fantasize about them.  (4) Flirting games.  (5) First time you seriously consider them as your lover.  (6) First time the other does same of you.  (7) First time you both know the other knows (and you know the other knows you know).  (8) First touch, kiss, and fu*k.  ---  05/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Sex, love, marriage, and kids are four different things.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Stages: (1) Pursuit and flight, courting, coming together.  (2) Initial relationships, and then long deep relationships (the four bases).  (3) Marriage and kids.  (4) Splitting, at any stage.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  Stages: find, woo and win, keep.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  The change to middle age.  (1) It is less exciting.  It is not new, unknown, curious.  You have done it already.  (2) Less drive: hormonal condition.  (3) Less physical ability and sensation.  Youths are tender, physically sensitive.  Old people are crusty.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  When you are young you can't always tell when someone likes you, which causes lost opportunities.  You can't always tell when someone is not interested in you, which causes rejection, abuse, pain, and  confusion.  As you get older you can tell better, make fewer mistakes, and experience less pain.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, development.  ---  When young, like/lust is a game, new and exciting.  When older, like/lust is a job, an obligation to self.  A boring, often fruitless, effort.  ---  12/30/1992




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