Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- .This section is about sexual ethics. --- 1/24/2006
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- (1) Ends: plenty sex, plenty types. Healthy sex. Best women (best looking, best personality). (2) Means: scooping tactics. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- (1) The limit you or a woman will take of the following behavior (degree and frequency and duration): cold, abrupt, lie, pompous, take them for granted, wimp, dependent, don't pay enough attention, jerk around. (2) Some take a lot, some take it only once. (3) Standards for behavior. Standards for deviation from standard behavior. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- (1) What kind of woman you are willing to settle for. How far from your type and standards? (2) How much you are willing to change? What you are changed into (consciously and unconsciously, voluntary and involuntary) and not. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Big sex questions. (1) How much resources (time, energy, money) are you spending on mentalizing, talking, and action about sex? How much is it helping or hurting you? --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Don't get hurt, don't hurt others. Emotionally or physically. Aware or unaware. Intentional or unintentional. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethical issues: trust, betrayal, lies, secrets, taking advantage of, fu*king over. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethical problems of love and sex. (1) Unasked for. Rape. (2) Too young. Pediophilia. (3) Already taken. Stealing. (4) Unwanted pregnancy. (5) Disease. (6) Emotional turmoil and disregard for others feelings. (7) Lack of commitment. Love 'em and leave 'em. --- 4/20/2001
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethical views (want to do and not) vs. self control (actually do and not). --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethics and sex. Of society, and of individual. Issues, views, arguments, evidence. (See also philosophy, ethics) --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethics for sexual communication, seduction (coming on), and sex act. Some like soft or rough, fast or slow. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Ethics or psychology. How much a person feels they want like/lust (emotion). How bad they feel if they don't get it. How much the person actually needs it (drive). What they are willing to do, and give up, and not and why, to get it. In general, in a specific situation. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Frequency. Hours per week spent fantasizing, spending time together, talking, cuddling, or having orgasms. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- How big a part does and should like/lust play in your life: thoughts, actions, money, time. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- How desperate will you become? What will you then do, or not? How much power will you give up, or not, for sex (wife), or for money (job). --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- How much responsibility do we have or should we take for other people? No responsibility: let the buyer beware, law of the jungle vs. 100% responsibility for the other, they have no responsibility for themselves(?). --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- How much will you change for a woman? --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- How much you let horniness and loneliness change your mind (metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, aesthetics, attitudes and values) and behavior. How much it will drive you to pathological sex, paying for sex, a controlling prude nasty bitch? How much you let it destroy you vs. how much you use it to grow. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Like/lust is supposed to make you happy and productive. If it is doing the opposite, something is wrong, either with your partner or with your attitude. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Lonely, bored, horny. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Love vs. flak. How much give, and not, and when, and why? How much take, and not, and when, and why? What's healthy to put up with and what's not? Where do you draw the line? How to respond to healthy and unhealthy behavior? --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Lying: how much, about what. Secrecy: how much, about what. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Most important thing to know about sex is when it is healthy and unhealthy, ethical and unethical. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Picking a lover. Values and standards. Long term (most women) vs. short term (most men). Unconscious and conscious. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Reasons they actually hold ethical views. Reasons they think they hold them. Arguments they and others have pro and contra ethical views. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Sex, or lack of it, should not hinder the rest of your life. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Sex: how much, with who, when, where, how. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Sex. (1) Sex: good it can do. (A) Pleasure it gives. Physical pleasure: the feeling. Psychological pleasure: release of tension; emotional release; having a really good friend. (B) Growth it affords. Maturing(?). Takes sex search off mind, and lets you think of other new things. (2) Sex: damage and harm it can do. (A) Physical: disease, unwanted kids, abortions. (B) Psychology. (C) To self and other. Intentional (e.g. getting pregnant on sly to get married) vs. unintentional. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Sexual mores. (1) Free love: one night stands, any type of behavior. (2) Conservative prudes: no sex till marriage, missionary style only. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Some things in sex are a matter of ethics. However, other things in sex are not a matter of ethics, rather, they are a matter of aesthetics. Know the difference. For example, if you prefer one person's one hairstyle to another hairstyle then that is a matter of aesthetics. When two consenting adults prefer one type of sex act to another then that is a matter of aesthetics. --- 11/25/2004
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Tastes formed by physical, psychological, and sociological influences. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Tastes: (1) Aesthetic tastes. (2) Personality tastes. (3) Lifestyle tastes. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Things you won't do because it is too wild and you won't get sex vs. things you will do even if it means no sex. Things you will do because you want to get sex vs. things you won't do even for sex. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Three philosophies of like/lust. (1) Take as much as you can and give nothing in return vs. (2) Take nothing and give everything vs. (3) Give as much as you get. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Two spheres of sexual ethics. (1) Emotional issues. Hurting the feelings of others. (2) Physical issues. Disease, pregnancy, etc. --- 11/25/2004
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Type: values. League: standards. You are not my type vs. you are not in my league. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Values, standards, tastes. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Various cultural views on sex that I disagree with (1) No fu*king till married. Virgin required for marriage. (2) Man should work, women should stay home an raise kids. (3) No contraception allowed. (4) Women should wear veils. (5) Death for adultery. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- What you are willing to do (and give up) for like and lust vs. what you are not willing to do (and give up) for like lust. At any moment vs. what actually happens. And same for her. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- What's the proper place of like/lust in life? Purpose of love, frequency, and type? --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, ethics. --- Why sex: procreation, physical pleasure, emotional closeness, to experiment, to enjoy, to get it off mind (horniness). --- 12/30/1992