Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- .This section is about men. Topics include: ( ) Hoax of the "alpha male". ( ) Hoax of the "real man". --- 1/24/2006
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- "Be a man.", they say. "What does it mean to be a man?", they ask. Nothing. It does not mean anything. What does it mean to be human?", is a better question. What does it mean to be a good human? That is the real question. Fair, hardworking, brave, etc. --- 6/30/1999
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- At what age do you go from being a horny young buck to a perverted old man? --- 12/12/1993
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Being a man is an attitude, not a physical thing. There exist wimpy hunks as surely as there exist manly cripples. --- 05/10/1997
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Critique of "macho". Macho as violence. Macho as cruelty. Macho as abuse of power. That is what some people think a man is. They are wrong. They desperately want to be men. They desperately want to be seen as men. They desperately want to feel like men. Because they are not self confident. Because they have an inferiority complex. Because they are power addicts. --- 10/18/2004
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Essence of being a man is desiring (the elusive) women. Therefore one phenomenological view holds that gay men are not men, and lesbians are men (?). --- 05/30/1993
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "alpha male". (1) All alpha males achieve? No. (2) No non-alpha males achieve? No. (3) Anyone who achieves is an alpha male? No. --- 10/8/2003
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "alpha male". Physically strong. Smart. Many sexual conquests. Achieve. Leader. Fighting. Bullying. To say that anyone who shows the above traits is an alpha male is baloney. --- 10/8/2003
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "real man". I hesitate to call it a myth, lest they think of themselves as mythic. The hoax is that some people believe that a real man must be (1) Physically strong. (2) Break the law. (3) Control and abuse other people. (4) Patriarch ruling with an iron gauntlet or velvet glove. --- 10/14/2003
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "real man". It is a fallacy to believe that men are naturally violent, therefore to be a man you must act violently, and if you do not act violently then you are not a man. --- 1/3/2004
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "real man". Pathological notions of what it means to be a man: You have to kill something. You have to kill someone. You have to hurt someone. --- 9/25/2003
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Hoax of the "real man". Some people mistakenly believe that to be a "real man" one has to have big muscles. Some people mistakenly believe that to be a "real man" one has to be the tyrant of one's family. --- 12/5/2003
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- In general: nature of, traits of, causes and effects of. Types: ideals and anti-ideal stereotypes. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- It is better being the guy. They make all the moves. All you need is guts and savoir fare, charm, polish. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Male roles. Soldier, boxer, knight, sports star. --- 06/20/1994
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Maleness. Healthy, clean, pure (undecadent), robust, strong. Male role models. Cowboy, ironworker, fireman, astronaut, muscle beach, weightlifter, lumberjack, railroad man, hunter, farmer. The idealistic, physical, country, nature, wild. --- 10/30/1995
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Men who are trying too hard to be a "real man". Hypermasculine cartoon caricatures. --- 11/25/2004
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Money = looks, for a man. That is, women value a man with money as much as men value a woman with looks. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- There is a warped attitude in America that takes inarticulateness as a sign of manliness. Unfortunately, inarticulateness often leads to stupidity and repression, both of which are unhealthy. The result is that there is a common yet pathological model of men as being silent, stupid, clogged dolts. --- 1/1/2002
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Three realms of being male. (1) Physical. (2) Psychology. (3) Social. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Traditional conceptions of man. (1) Warrior: against hostiles. (2) Competitor: for women. (3) Provider: of stuff. (4) Leader: of clan. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Traits and roles. Warrior, fighter, competitor, contestant, provider. Pursue, dominate, aggressive. Wants: sex without love, looks. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Types. The fix it, the bachelor, the father husband. The booze horses and vegas guy, the sports guy. Mr career, preppie, yuppie. Poet, aesthete, romantic, dreamer, artist. Logical, science, academic. Cheesy shark pragmatist businessman. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Types. Wimp, fighter, lover, domesticated vs. wild. --- 12/30/1992
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- What does it mean to be a man, as opposed to a woman? What does it mean to be a man, as opposed to a mouse? These are two ways to define manhood, in opposition to something else. --- 9/30/1996
Sociology, sexuality, men and women, men. --- Why do guys have big egos? When you are facing rejection from women you develop an ego as a defense mechanism. It is similar to the way that a salesman develops an ego to deal with rejection from customers. Rejection rates from women can be as high as 10 to 1. When women start asking men out then men will lose the attitude, but then the women will develop an attitude. By now, ego has been hard-wired or bio-engineered into men. --- 9/1/2000