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Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  .This section is about women.  Topics include: ( ) Feminism.  ( ) Sexism against women.  ---  1/24/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  (1) Women who fall in love.  (2) Women who have to be wooed and pursued to fall in love.  ---  11/20/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  A disservice done to women.  Many women are taught that the men will fight to win them, and then work to keep them.  Many women are taught that all the woman has to do is sit passively, doing nothing, like a queen.  What a way to waste your life.  ---  4/11/2000


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  A negative view of women.  Women are like kids.  They cry easily, and then you have to ask them what is wrong, and then they say they don't know, and then you have to kiss them and hug them and tell them everything will be ok and cheer them up.  You have to keep them happy and entertained too.  ---  03/01/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Beware the giggle twins.  Beware the hag.  ---  6/15/2004


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Biochemical, psychological, behavior, and social factors.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Celebrate women's periods.  Instead of menstruation being considered a private shame, menstruation should be a public celebration.  Take your menstruating lover to dinner.  ---  11/10/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Chick's games.  (1) Keep 'em hangin on.  Keep 'em interested but don't make it definite how you feel.  (2) Love me but don't touch me.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Drunk women falling in love with you, then hating you when sober.  Ego booster!.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminine aesthetics.  (1) Young look vs. older look.  (2) Delicate look vs. rough look.  ---  10/05/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism is good for women and good for men.  Feminism is good for the USA and good for the rest of the world.  Feminism helps create women that are: (1) Smarter: more worldly and sophisticated, better able to think for themselves and speak for themselves.  (2) Stronger: better able to stand up for themselves and able to stand up for what they believe in.  (3) Healthier: smarter and stronger women means fewer neurotics and fewer psychotics.  Fewer nervous breakdowns.  Less misery and pain.  Less illness.  Fewer eating disorders.  Less sick days.  (4) More productive: more useful contributions.  (5) Less of a ball and chain.  Less of a burden.  Less dependent.  (6) Less easy to take advantage of.  Less likely to be a victim in life.  Less crime.  ---  6/30/2000


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism, various definitions of.  History of equal rights struggle.  History of what men and women think of (and act on) womans experience.  It is a political thing, like ageism, and racism.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism, women's rights, is still very important today, except the front is overseas in Africa and Arabia.  ---  04/24/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  (1) Equal and same (androgyny) vs. equal and different.  (2) Superior or dominators vs. inferior.  (3) Overt vs. covert.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  (1) Equal but different vs. androgyny.  (2) Want equality vs. want domination.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  (1) Positive sense.  Want sovereignty.  Equal job/life chances, i.e. freedom of job/life choices.  Equal pay.  (2) Unhealthy sense.  Want to abuse men.  Want to emasculate males.  Want to overpower men.  Want to be separate from men.  Want to be male.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  (1) Some lame males want a female who is dependent, subservient, and obedient.  (2) Some lame men treat women like sex objects.  ---  7/16/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  History of wrong views against women (or any minority).  (1) Bad metaphysical views of women.  Women as weak (physically and mentally).  Women as passive.  Women as stupid.  Women as too emotional, and not rational enough.  Women as crazy, especially during period.  (2) Bad laws against women.  Women as man's property.  Women can't own property.  Women not allowed in public life (work, government).  Women stuck at home, doing all housework and child raising.  (3) Arguments used to justify wrong views: it is tradition so it must be right.  ---  06/10/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Issues.  (1) Political issues.  Male power issues.  Entrenched patriarchy with females oppressed.  (2) Female body issues.  Abortion.  (3) Female mind issues.  Female epistemology: knowing by feeling.  Female ethics of caring.  (4) Social issues.  Female communication methods.  Female-female relationships.  ---  02/28/1998


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Men see the world differently from women.  Men act differently from women.  World has been created in mans image.  Man has been created in mans image.  Woman has been created in mans image.  Woman must break free from this cycle, and create or remake herself, man, and the world in her image.  ---  07/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Patriarchy is baloney.  There are people out there promoting patriarchy, saying women should be obedient to men, saying wives should be obedient to husbands, and those people who promote patriarchy are full of baloney.  ---  1/16/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Sexual discrimination continues to be a big problem.  Sexual discrimination continues in America and worldwide.  Some conservative pundits would have you believe that sexual discrimination against women is a thing of the past, but those conservative pundits are wrong.  Some conservative pundits would have you believe that its either not a problem or that nothing can be done about it, but those conservative pundits are wrong.  ---  6/26/2005


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Spectrum of positions.  (1) Pro lesbian, all men are evil.  (2) Pro lesbian, all men are idiots.  (3) Pro lesbian, only a woman can understand same.  (4) Hetero, androgynous.  (5) Hetero, separate but equal rights and opportunities and representation.  (6) Hetero, equal opportunities, merit, no reverse discrimination.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  The simple fact is that there has been, and there continues to be, both in the USA and the world, oppression and exploitation of women by men.  ---  5/10/2005


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  There is a tendency for men to abuse their power (size and strength) simply because, firstly, its in their own self(ish) interest, and secondly, not abusing power requires ethical reasoning which is often acquired long after the power itself is acquired.  ---  9/7/2003


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  When women believe their main purpose in life is to look beautiful like a model (beauty object or sex object), or if they believe that looking beautiful is all that men want and value, then women do not develop their other abilities.  If they think there is a better chance for bigger economic payoff for beauty, sex, or being a kept wife, they will pursue those activities and not develop their minds or careers.  ---  07/18/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Why are some women so quiet and passive?  Why do not some women speak?  Some women have been socially conditioned to be passive and quiet.  Some women have been put down for speaking up.  Women have been done a disservice by society.  Women have been done a disservice by men.  Some women cannot see that they have been wronged by a male dominated society.  ---  7/31/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Why support women's rights?  Population control is important.  Population control depends on contraception, which depends on women's rights, which depends on education for women in order to gain economic independence, in order to gain political equality and exercise their rights.  ---  12/29/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Women today continue to be pressured to sit down and shut up.  Women should stand up and speak out.  ---  6/22/2006


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Women who think (1) Men are all bad, so separate totally.  (2) Men are half bad, so do not separate totally.  (3) Men are good, but should be dominated over by women.  (4) Men are good, and should be equals of women.  ---  01/24/1994


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminism.  Women who want (1) Together and equal (hetero).  (2) Separate and equal (lesbos and homos).  (3) Equal and same.  Androgyny.  Both sexes alike, whether as femme (female), middle, or butch (male).  (4) Equal and different.  (5) Women superior, with men feminized.  Men do womens work; men dress, talk, and act like women.  The women remain femme.  (6) Women superior, keep men as masculine slaves.  Women may or may not be masculinized.  ---  06/20/1994


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Feminists, types of. (1) Means: will fight fair vs. will abuse.  (2) Sexual orientation: (A) Heteros vs. dykes.  (B) Like men vs. hate men (hetero or homo can hate or like).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Girls want passion, and excitement, vs. stability, security, and money.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Girls who go for older men want a father figure, and an authority figure.  Girls who go for younger men want a little brother, a lovable scrap, a wag.  ---  12/30/1996


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  It is difficult to perceive what is going on with a woman.  Did she come or did she not come?  Is she feeling excited or is she not feeling excited?  Being a male these things are obvious.  Women are subtle.  ---  10/31/2001


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Just yes them.  Give them what they want.  Do not be who you are.  Do not ask or expect anything from them.  The above attitudes are how men get beaten down into wimps.  This is s&m in everyday life.  ---  12/29/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Man lovers vs. man haters.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Most women are into surviving, fitting in, social status, money, and security.  I have been living with poverty, insecurity, eccentricity and rebellion.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  PART ONE.  Women shopping why?  (1) Possible genetic reasons.  (A) Women are gatherers.  Women are acquisitive.  (B) Women are beautifiers.  Women like to make things beautiful.  (C) Women are nest builders.  Home makers.  Materially acquisitive.  (2) Possibly learned from culture.  (A) Learned materialism and overconsumption.  (B) Women learned from culture to pursue beauty.     PART TWO.  The above train of thought implies that men as hunters and warriors.  (1) Possible genetic reasons.  (A) Fighting for women.  (B) Hunting for food.  (2) Possibly learned from culture.  (A) Fighting for women.  (B) Competing for money.  (C) Face to face competition of sports.     PART THREE.  Counter-arguments to the above ideas.  (1) Women compete for men.  (2) Men cooperate as much as they compete.  (3) Men are as materially acquisitive as women.  (4) Men are as interested in beauty as women.  (5) Men are as interested in home-making or house-making as women are (ex. the home shows on television).  (6) Evidence of men as gatherers and child-raisers.  (7) Evidence of women as hunters, warriors and leaders.  ---  5/12/2000


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Paul's "Ralph Kramden" analysis of women.  They want it.  I know they want it.  They know I know they want it.  I know they know I know they want it (key).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Some women don't know how to flirt.  They don't make eyes, but they still may like you.  They may be shy.  ---  10/10/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Some women need leadership, they want to be told what to do, and told what the both of you will do.  This may be genetic: want leader for family.  This may be social: taught to be passive and submissive.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Stereotypes of women.  Rural vs. urban.  Virgin vs. easy slut whore.  Naive vs. sophisticated experienced.  Healthy vs. debaucher party-girl sex drugs rock-n-roll.  Young vs. old.  Passive vs. aggressive.  Sub vs. dom.  Athletic vs. not.  ---  12/27/2003


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  The best thing about NYC is that here you will find women from every place on earth, wearing every type of clothing, with the freedom to live like they will.  ---  11/2/2001


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  The girls in summer.  Now, in summer, we see the differences between man and woman.  The endless parade of thinly and skimpily veiled FEMALE FLESH.  The endless variety of hips, butts, breasts, and faces.  You can see your type.  The hip dress.  The beatnik look in the eyes.  They see you too.  They call to you with their eyes.  ---  07/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  The problems with some women is they think it is their duty to treat guys like shit.  They want equality but don't give it.  They think guys have no feelings.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  They are taught not to be verbal, active, overt.  They are taught to be nonverbal, passive, subtle.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Tiny, soft, smooth, curvy, emotional, sensitive.  ---  11/27/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  To woo a woman, it is not about what happens physically.  You must create a mental fantasy in their heads, of the ideal man and the ideal relationship.  Sex is mental, and love is mental.  ---  10/20/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Traits: sensitive, quiet, manipulative, seductive.  Moody, teasing, selective, fleeing.  Subtle (in action, and in observation).  Resisting, nervous, afraid, hold out for better.  React later, perceptive, material, worldly.  Practical, selective.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Two worst kinds of women.  (1) Fall in love with you without knowing you, and flirt and tease, and dump you when they find out who you really are.  (2) Fall in love with you when they are drunk.  Flirt and tease and promise.  Show interest, raise expectations, and dump you when they sober up.  ---  12/06/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Types of girls.  (1) Fresh, innocent, healthy.  Ex., the school girl, the cheerleader, the girl jock.  (2) Slutty, scuzzy, skanky, banged out, drugged out, partied out, tired.  ---  04/24/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Types, negative: dyke, psycho, frigid, black widow, tease.  Bitch, prude, slut, man bashers.  Man trappers, non-committers, cheats.  Non-reactors, sub-standard, nag.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Types.  The cheerleader, the homemaker.  The career woman, the slut, the trendoid.  The ditz, the bimbo, the rich bitch.  The crunchy, grunge, earthmother.  The quirky looking and thinking quiet loner.  The tease, the gabby one, the shy one, the fat one.  The ugly one, the beauty.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Unless a woman thinks you think you are better than her, she won't stick with you.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  When a woman likes you.  She drops her defenses.  Starts to act warm, stupid, give up-ish.  Their emotions interfere with their brains.  (2) When women don't like you, or are using you, they act cold and smart.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Why do women love old men?  Old men are not just father figures for women.  Any man strong, smart, or peaceful enough to stay alive through a youth of stupidity and fighting instinctually earns a woman's respect.  ---  06/15/1994


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Woman qualities.  Emotional vs. unemotional.  Horny vs. prude.  Straight vs. kinky.  Tease vs. honest.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women and astrology, psychic hotlines and magic.  Why does it seem that women are more interested in astrology, psychics and magic than are men?  Firstly, is it a matter of emotion over reason?  And is it learned or innate?  Are women taught to be emotional and men taught to be rational?  Or are women biologically hardwired to be more emotional than men?   Are women so emotionally attuned because children are so emotional and women raise children?  If children were primarily rational instead of emotional, would women be more rational?  To the extent that men interact primarily with rational adults and not emotional children men exercise their rationality regularly.  To the extent that women interact with emotional children and not rational adults women exercise their emotionality.  Secondly, is it because women rely more on their "intuition" where men rely more on reason?  What is intuition?  Is intuition a form of unconscious thinking?  ---  9/19/2001


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are bio-engineered to play hard to get, to keep holding out, to never give in, to be stand off-ish, to have an attitude.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are like a box of chocolates.  They all look basically the same on the outside, brown, some lumpy, some smooth.  But on the inside some are sweet and tasty, and some are disgusting.  ---  06/10/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are programmed to be wary and give up their attention, words, looks, touch, and sex to sensitive, honest, and secure men.  Make her feel special with wit, charm and kindness.  ---  11/16/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are sensitive to being women.  Women are sensitive to abuses of male power.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are strange creatures to the male.  What is it like to live in a world of cats, bunnies, koalas, dolls, stuffed animals, and babies, so peaceful and sweet and cute?  It is utterly foreign from the male world of sex lust, money greed, twisted kinks, power craving, competition and conflict, etc.  Let them enjoy it.  ---  02/09/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women are subtle.  Subtle in affirmation: looking for the most persistent.  Subtle in rejection: out of fear for their lives.  That drives guys crazy.  Guys like overt cues.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women go for a cute, funny, flirty, safe, harmless, puppy attitude.  Flirt and tease.  ---  03/20/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women gossip because they lack the habit, or power, to act instead of talk, and to think abstractly instead of dwelling on what's in front of their face.  ---  06/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women like guys who are brave, serious, funny, sensitive, receptive, aggressive, strong, and communicative.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women like guys who are in control of the situation, themselves, and her.  Women are instinctively wary and put off by guys who seem out of control of the situation, themselves, or her.  ---  06/10/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women spellbind, enslave, and overpower, intentionally or unintentionally, consciously or unconsciously, with or without trying, they use and abuse it.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women use clothes to communicate mood, personality, self identity, aspirations, and philosophy.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women usually react.  Indirectly, not directly.  Covertly, not overtly.  Later, not at present moment.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women want to feel desirable.  They want your attention.  They want to know you want them.  It is a form of power for them, sadistic teasing.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women want to fu*k.  Don't want anyone to know they want to fu*k.  Don't want anyone to know they fu*k.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women want you to be sensitive without being weak.  Strong without being overbearing.  Communicate both thoughts and emotions.  ---  11/20/1993


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women want: money, kids, crawling man, don't want to put out.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women want: money, stability, status, security.  Attention without putting out.  Love without sex, emotional vampires.  Babies, conformity, looks, personality, humor.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women who are trying too hard to be a "real woman".  Hyperfeminized cartoon caricatures.  ---  11/25/2004


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women who have a natural view about their bodies and sex, and who fu*k like rabbits, vs. women who are sex obsessed, hung up about their bodies and sex, flirt and tease like mad, and never put out.  Find the first, avoid the second.  ---  07/11/1997


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women who were raised spoiled princesses think they should get whatever they want.  Think they can treat anyone anyway they like.  Life and love is just a game, people are pieces.  It is an immature attitude.  Protect yourself from these pathological types.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women with women faces.  Women with girl faces.  Girls with women faces.  Girls with girl faces.  And same for bodies and voices.  ---  07/03/1994


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women: we fu*k their bodies, they fu*k our minds.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women.  What can one expect from a woman?  (1) If she fu*ks you, and likes you, and doesn't bust your chops, that's all you can reasonably expect.  (2) To expect her to be a genius on top of that is perhaps asking too much.  ---  12/30/1995


Sociology, sexuality, men and women, women.  ---  Women's sixth sense.  Do they sense dishonesty, deceit and repression?  Do they sense confidence or lack thereof?  Do they sense genuineness?  ---  12/30/1992




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